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Cassaundra
Just Said Yes July 2017

Wedding After Marriage

Cassaundra, on March 23, 2016 at 12:10 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 34

I've always wanted a beautiful wedding in the countryside; white dress, good food, drinks, dancing, the whole shebang. However, my Husband and I were cornered into an early marriage that ended up being a same-day appointment courthouse thing. I don't feel like giving too many details regarding the circumstances of our sudden marriage, so all you need to know is that 1) we are both Active Duty military and that was the root cause of our situation and 2) for our specific relationship, there was NO WAY POSSIBLE we could have waited for marriage until the day when a "real" wedding was possible.

We still very much both want to have some semblance of a nice wedding and are currently making moves toward having something on our second anniversary. All of our family is aware of the situation and most have given approval of our plans, so what I need help with is how to best plan this event. I'm thinking of doing a vow renewal that functions mostly like a smaller wedding?

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Latest activity by Brooke, on June 13, 2018 at 1:46 PM
  • nautiwife
    VIP July 2016
    nautiwife ·
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    I would plan it like a wedding, but call it a vow renewal. It sounds like that is what you are talking about.

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  • ZeldaBride
    Master April 2017
    ZeldaBride ·
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    Just stop calling it a wedding. A wedding is what you had when you actually got married. This is a vote renewal and is quite common.

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  • Cassaundra
    Just Said Yes July 2017
    Cassaundra ·
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    "Just stop calling it a wedding. A wedding is what you had when you actually got married. This is a vote renewal and is quite common."

    Noted: Will continue not calling my vow renewal a wedding. Will continue awareness of the fact that a wedding is when people get married. Will become aware that what I called a vow renewal is actually a vote renewal.

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  • ZeldaBride
    Master April 2017
    ZeldaBride ·
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    Ahahahaha! I'm too tired for this shit. Yes, it's a fucking vote renewal. Smiley xd

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  • Mrs. Winosaurusrex
    Master June 2016
    Mrs. Winosaurusrex ·
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    LOL. Well...I can't say anything to that. Do as Corinne said. Plan you vow renewal as you would a wedding. Budget guest list vendors.

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  • Lisa
    VIP February 2022
    Lisa ·
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    I vote for the vow renewal lol

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  • MsFtoMrsR
    Devoted August 2016
    MsFtoMrsR ·
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    We are also already married, and we are calling our vow renewal our "wedding celebration." Everyone who is coming is aware that we are already married.

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  • CHEYENNE
    Super September 2016
    CHEYENNE ·
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    I like wedding celebration, or vow renewal

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  • Kelsey
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    Kelsey ·
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    If you called it a celebration, it would be more proper to say "celebration of marriage"

    again, your wedding already happened, so it wouldnt be a "wedding celebration"

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  • Nonna T
    Master April 2014
    Nonna T ·
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    " "Just stop calling it a wedding. A wedding is what you had when you actually got married. This is a vote renewal and is quite common." Noted: Will continue not calling my vow renewal a wedding. Will continue awareness of the fact that a wedding is when people get married. Will become aware that what I called a vow renewal is actually a vote renewal. "

    Ok, noted your noteds. Note: getting snarky with Zelda will get you much snarky back from a lot of us on here.

    Please change your avatar.

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  • 2016beachwedding
    VIP October 2016
    2016beachwedding ·
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    Another vote for plan it the same as a wedding and call it a vow renewal or celebration of marriage but it will still be a wedding dress and anything else you both want

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  • Anastasia
    Devoted April 2016
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    If everyone invited was aware of your situation, I think it's still ok to call it a "celebration of marriage". Are you just doing a reception, or are you also having some kind of ceremony performed? If yes to the ceremony, I'd call it a vow renewal just so that folks knew that a ceremony component would be involved.

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  • Celia Milton
    Celia Milton ·
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    If everyone is aware that you got married and it's two years ago, plan the biggest shin dig you can, but do call it a 'celebration of marriage'.

    Everyone here knows that I'm all over private ceremonies and 'weddings' shortly thereafter, but this is not that.

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  • Brooke
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    Brooke ·
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    Op don't be salty about Zelda feedback....I know it must suck to not have a "wedding" but it is what it is. Your vow renewal can be just as, if not more fabulous than any wedding.

    Just call it what it is and embrace it.

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  • Diane
    VIP October 2016
    Diane ·
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    First of all, thank you for the service you and your husband have provided for us in this country. Active military men and women are much appreciated in my book.

    Enjoy your celebration and my vote is to just plan it as a vow renewal so you can have the full celebration!

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  • Christina
    Master October 2015
    Christina ·
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    One of the brides here had a vow renewal and was able to also get "banquet" pricing instead of "wedding" prices in regards to per plate and venue and believe she saved $50 plus dollars a plate. Think about looking into that as well when searching for venues.

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  • Brittanie
    Dedicated November 2016
    Brittanie ·
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    My husband and I have been together for ten years and married for six. We too couldn't have a wedding filled with the things that I had looked forward to such as first dances, father daughter dances, photos, a reception, etc. So almost 7 years later we are having just the "reception". We are throwing a huge party as if we picked up right where we left off, as well as celebrating how far we have come! I agree people are a little confused by it, but you should do what makes you happy!

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  • Cassaundra
    Just Said Yes July 2017
    Cassaundra ·
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    "Ok, noted your noteds. Note: getting snarky with Zelda will get you much snarky back from a lot of us on here.

    Please change your avatar."

    1) All of you, feel free to get as snarky as you want. It makes stuff interesting.

    2) Why should I change my avatar?

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  • MrsF2B
    VIP August 2016
    MrsF2B ·
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    The double rings avatar is associated with span and trolls. You'll see why if you're around often enough. So you'll get more responses if you change it. Also, it helps to build relationships since people will be able to identify your posts.

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  • FormerUser
    Master July 2015
    FormerUser ·
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    Great idea!

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