Wanderberg
Just Said Yes September 2019

Wedding 2 hours from home???

Wanderberg, on January 5, 2018 at 6:53 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 16
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Do you think its appropriate to have a wedding 2 hours from where most of the guests live? will everybody hate me? is it rude?? I live in more of an Urban city and we are definitely more rural people, so we want to be further north where there's more nature. The closest lodging from the place I'd like to get married is 30 minutes away, is that an ok drive for people who will be staying the night at the hotel??? Help please!!!

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Latest activity by Sharay, on January 6, 2018 at 4:28 PM
  • BlueHenBride
    Master March 2017
    BlueHenBride ·
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    I don't think 2 hours out of town is a big deal. It would be really inconvenient if your wedding was on a weekday, but it looks like your intended date is on a Saturday, so the travel shouldn't be a big deal.

    30 minutes from the venue isn't the best, but it's okay. A lot of people like being able to stay in a hotel block near the venue so they don't have to worry about driving home after partying (and drinking). A 30 minute drive isn't exactly ideal for that, so maybe look into providing transportation between the venue and hotel for your guests?
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  • A. L.
    Master July 2017
    A. L. ·
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    I would probably only go to a wedding 2 hours away for a very good friend or family member.

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    Master July 2018
    Cuoghi ·
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    I don't think 2 hours is a big deal. You might look into some sort of coach service? Party bus? You don't want people driving back after drinking.
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  • Cassie
    Super April 2018
    Cassie ·
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    Two hours is not a big deal at all.

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  • Forestwed
    Master May 2018
    Forestwed ·
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    Not a big deal. They will probably like the change of scenery
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  • muriel
    Champion June 2018
    muriel ·
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    Have your wedding wherever you want. Graciously accept declines from people who choose not to travel. Others will decline because of the 30 minute drive to the nearest hotel. They either have to not drink at all or have a designated driver.

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  • AlyssaWynne
    Devoted July 2018
    AlyssaWynne ·
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    It would probably be a destination wedding, and so most of your friend and family would need to stay in a hotel that evening.

    Are there hotels nearby that you could block off for guests?

    Our wedding will be 2 hours from us, and we are he closest ones. Our VIPs were all willing to make the trip, and we will all be staying locally to, or at the venue.
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  • AlyssaWynne
    Devoted July 2018
    AlyssaWynne ·
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    Missed the part where you said hotels were 39 mins away... Can you hire a shuttle service to bring people back and forth?
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  • earias
    Champion December 2017
    earias ·
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    My wedding was about 2 hours from where we live but all of our guests who wanted to stay the night or weekend stayed at the hotel where our reception was. We paid for most of our guests' rooms, but we kept our guest list small (40) to be able to do this. So 2 hours is not a big deal, but what is a big deal is the 30 minute distance from the hotel and where you're getting married. This may make it hard for your guests to drink and enjoy the evening. Could you look into hiring a bus or paying for uber?

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    Just Said Yes September 2019
    Claudia ·
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    I don’t think it’s too far! We are doing the same exact thing. What we plan on doing is just giving everyone a heads up at least a year in advance and we will be attaching a sheet with recommended hotels and b&b’s where they can stay if they want to make a weekend out of it. Good luck!
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  • Wanderberg
    Just Said Yes September 2019
    Wanderberg ·
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    I completely forgot about using a shuttle! great idea. Thank you for all your input girls! i really appreciate it. anyone know the general cost of a shuttle??? I'll throw in some inquiries but just curious!

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    Dedicated September 2018
    Allicia ·
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    I'm getting married over 3 hours away from where most of my guests are located. My FH family is in California and we live in Colorado so the people willing to fly won't notice a difference. Also, our guest list is small. We have 60 on the list. Part of why we chose the venue was due to not wanting a big wedding. This way, the people that are closest to us are the ones willing to travel. Fortunately for us, we found a venue that includes 19 rooms for most of our guests to stay
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    Beginner August 2018
    Danita ·
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    Go where your heart desires! Your wedding is all a out you and your dreams! I live close to NYC and my wedding is over an hr away, almost two hours for some of my guests. I wanted a beautiful waterfront venue where I never been to before. I have a hotel block for guests. It's only 1 day so your guests can make a sacrifice for 1 day!
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  • Deirdre
    Super March 2018
    Deirdre ·
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    We are doing the exact thing that you are doing, our venue is 2 hours from where we live (though we both have a lot of family out of state who are traveling anyway). We did STD's for everyone with a link to our website that had room block information. We did a big room block at a hotel that is 25 minutes from our venue. We are renting 2 school buses (we have a big wedding and anticipate 100 or so people staying at the hotel, so for us it's $900 for both round trip). to take all our guests to and from the venue (we are having ceremony and reception in the same place). We are also doing a brunch for everyone the next day, so people can have a nice breakfast before they go back the next day. The majority of our friends are coming and are getting a hotel so they can have a good time and not worry about driving. You may have some people who can't make it, but if you give enough notice, it's not too bad.


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  • WinterMarie
    Super November 2018
    WinterMarie ·
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    We had a friends wedding 4 hours away. Everyone lives here but they had the wedding there. We all drove there and it was great. The drive was long but we didn’t mind too much. It was a nice get away!
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    Dedicated May 2018
    Sharay ·
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    I don’t think it’s a big deal all of my guest will be traveling from other states so 2 hours is not bad. It’ll also help narrow down the guest list. If you all will be staying at a hotel make sure to ask about courtesy room blocks for possible discounted rates
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