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Just Said Yes August 2018

Wearing groomsman suit to another wedding

Kata, on May 18, 2018 at 8:36 AM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 30

Hi, need your help to settle an argument between my husband and I: My husband will be one of the groomsmen at his friend’s wedding this summer. All groomsmen have been asked to buy a specific grey Calvin Klein suit so they all match (each had to pay for themselves). 3 weeks before this wedding we...
Hi, need your help to settle an argument between my husband and I:
My husband will be one of the groomsmen at his friend’s wedding this summer. All groomsmen have been asked to buy a specific grey Calvin Klein suit so they all match (each had to pay for themselves).
3 weeks before this wedding we are going to another one, where my husband are not In the wedding party (however close friends to bride & groom).
My husband wants to wear this grey Calvin Klein suit for this wedding too, and in my opinion this is not appropriate ESPECIALLY since the groom & bride to-be of that other wedding will be attending as guests as well.

So consequently they’ll see my husband wearing “their” groomsman outfit ahead of their wedding day.
Im concerned the bride (of the second wedding ) will take offense, my husband thinks I’m overreacting, especially since he paid for said suit himself.
Whats correct in this specific situation exactly??
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  • Neffe
    Master July 2020
    Neffe ·
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    Hi Kata! I understand your concerns about him wearing the suit twice, but if he purchased it, he has control over when he decides to wear it. I would just make sure it doesn’t get any stains on it, as it would cost him time and money to dry clean it.
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  • Alexis
    Dedicated May 2018
    Alexis ·
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    My FH is wearing his suit as a groomsmen a month after the wedding. I don’t think it’s inappropriate at all! It’s his suit, he bought it, they can’t tell him to not wear it
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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
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    If they asked the groomsmen to buy their suits (which I'm assuming was more expensive) then they own it, so they are going to wear it wherever they want. At least I would, and so would my fiance. I'm fairly positive no one will notice if he re-wears the suit, nor would anyone care. But if you are concerned, I'd just ask the bride and groom.

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  • MrsV1027
    Master October 2018
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    First have him ask them. They may say it's ok since he spent quite a bit on the suit. Suits are a bit less memorable than say a bridesmaids dress so the bride and groom that picked it may notice but not care but I think you should ask them to be sure.

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  • Mrs. Fall Bride
    Master October 2016
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    I would agree with you, that it's not appropriate to wear the suit before he wears it as a groomsmen. After that wedding, of course, wear it as much as he wants, but especially since the couple that's having him in their wedding will be there, I would keep it fresh and save it for theirs.

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  • Tammy
    Super October 2018
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    He bought it he should be able to wear it whenever.

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  • K
    Just Said Yes August 2018
    Kata ·
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    Thanks all, for your input! It seems like, overall there shouldn’t be any issues or drama should he wear it prior to the other wedding Smiley smile
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  • SB
    VIP March 2019
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    I don't see a problem with it at all. He paid for the suit so might as well get some use out of it! My FH had to buy a nice navy suit for my brother's wedding and he's worn it to many formal events. If he paid for it, he can do whatever he wants.

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  • Deirdre
    Super March 2018
    Deirdre ·
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    I would be nervous about him wearing the suit. I saw PP say if he spills something on, he can get it dry cleaned, but what if it's a really bad stain that won't come out? He could also rip it our damage it in some other way. My H is awful to his clothes and I wouldn't trust him, especially if he was letting loose and drinking. Is the other bride laid back or is she more up tight? If she's laid back she probably wouldn't care, but I'm sure there are definitely brides out there who would flip out. If I was in a wedding and bought a bridesmaid dress, I don't think I would wear it to an event before the wedding. I'd be too nervous that something would happen to it. I get easily paranoid about stuff like that. For me, it would be better safe than sorry. Does he have another suit he can wear?


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  • Rozenbook
    Expert August 2018
    Rozenbook ·
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    Usually because the groom probably thinks the same. Brides are the ones to consult because they tend care more about the little things thnt the groom, unless the groom is one of the few who care to that level.

    Like my fiance could care less if my gatefolds are a shade lighter but I care if they are
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