Wearing Gloves for my Wedding

I don't think it's uncouth to have your rings placed on over the glove. I just think it may be awkward at the reception. Imagine trying to eat, cut cake etc with gloves on.

I would be concerned that if your engagement ring will fit on over a pair of gloves then it might be too big. Have you had the size checked by a jeweler? You don't want it to fall off and lose it.

I wouldn't see anything wrong with wearing rings over gloves except that to me that would mean they are too large without the gloves.

I know a lot of women will release the seam of the glove on one side of the left ring finger so they can just slip their finger out to have their rings put on. Others tend to remove that glove at the ring exchange.

JSmith2U, I didn't really think anything awkward about eating or cutting the cake (if we have a cake) with gloves on. Though I guess it would suck if I get my white gloves dirty.

Reggie, I don't think the ring is too big, it's not super-tight. It's much tighter over my gloves, which are really thin, I was almost afraid it'd be stuck when I put it on, but it's fine. I haven't been to a jeweler yet though.

mna, I have heard that, but I'm not interested in ruining my gloves by removing the seam.

I agree with JSmith, I don't think it's uncouth, but if you plan on dancing it might get very warm, so I wouldn't be attached to wearing them 100% of the time. I would also be concerned about getting them dirty. Even if you are very meticulous while eating and cutting the cake you will also interacting with all of your wedding guests who want to congratulate you, and you can't keep track of how clean their hands are. I'm imagining opera length long, is that close?

ETA: I did a little research because this piqued my interest. Most websites actually say you should wear your ring under your gloves and take the glove(s) off for the ring exchange if you dont want to do a temporary slit (it is fabric, you can sew it back together) Almost everywhere also states to never eat in gloves. http://www.brideandgroom.com/wedding-articles/wedding-gloves.asp

Oh thank you Bryce. This is helpful. They are opera length I believe. And I'm actually fine dancing with gloves on. I used to take dance classes as a kid and had to wear gloves all the time. So I know how they feel.

I would also be really concerned that if your ring fits over your glove, its too big.

Can anyone who did wear gloves for their wedding provide details about how you did the ring exchange? When you took them off? Etc?

We had opera gloves with those button openings. In theory, the idea behind the button openings is that you can wiggle your hand out of the hand part of the glove, while still leaving the arm part in place. However, we didn't really want to fiddle with that right before the ring exchange, so we just put the rings on over the gloves, and moved them when we took the gloves off. The material was both thin enough and slippery enough (silk) that it really wasn't an issue getting the rings over the gloves.

2dbride, how long did you leave the gloves on for? Did you take them off for specific parts of the reception and put them back on?

Rosemary, what about you? How long did you leave the gloves on for the reception?

View Quoted Comment Nma’s answer is from the knot and it was satire. I guess that was obvious to everyone but one reader...

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You do realize this thread is from years ago right? Maybe you should be more aware of things...

So you made a profile to literally only comment on 1 discussion. What was the point of that lmao. I'm pretty sure brides to be don't need advice from someone who calls them dummies

Regardless of the formal occasion, gloves are always removed before eating or drinking any thing, or before cutting or serving any food or beverage. Gloves off if making a toast or drinking one. Off for any cake cutting. Off the entire time at the meal table. Usually worn while taking someone's hands or giving hugs etc. outdoors, before or after a ceremony, or in a receiving line. Usually worn for any first or ceremonial dance. May be worn or not for other dancing. During the ceremony, rings should not be worn or placed over a glove. You may slit a glove between the last joint and knuckle, near the palm, and slide the glove off one finger to put a ring on it. Easiest thing with shoulder length gloves. Or may remove one or both gloves entirely and hand to MOH or other person during the entire ring exchange. Gloves go over the ring afterward. To show the rings for a picture, gloves off. . Many etiquette books barely mention gloves, but books on protocol usually address glove wearing, as well as addressing people by proper titles. And so do books on period costumes and manners. I love formal gloves of any kind with a gown. It takes a few minutes of practice to elegantly pull out the tips on one hand and remove the glove, then hold the discarded glove between your small fingers and palm, folded, while using your thumb and two fingers to pull the tips of the other glove fingers, then remove the glove. I was in a play role the first time I had to do an on and off routine. And practiced the motions at least 40 times, so I could look at and smile at someone, while elegantly and smoothly remove long gloves without dropping one. I do not think I could talk and remove my gloves at the same time even with practice. Buy gloves that are loose on the hand part, so your hands do not sweat and soak the glove. And so a solitaire will go on beneath it. Gloves are very easy to custom make or alter, if you have big hands but thin arms, or small hands but muscular or heavy upper arms. Watch a clip of Audrey Hepburn from Breakfast at Tiffany's, or other early 50's movie. She always looks so elegant putting on and taking off long gloves. Makes it into a social flirtation. Have fun with them, considering the number of people with bare shoulders or strapless gowns, I wish more people chose gloves as an accessory.

I just read some of the above on slitting glove seams. Staying out of the arguing, if you go to a museum with historical costumes, you often will find slits in the gloves to accommodate rings underneath. And some European museums portraying royalty, you see glove slits too. I have a glove pattern in 3 lengths passed on to me by a great aunt who was a costume maker for opera houses, and ballet, in Copenhagen for many years. So you can make kidskin, silk, or lace gloves with side finger or underfinger slits, for rings.

View Quoted Comment Yes, it’s from years ago. And it still comes up in searches. For brides who are still looking (you know, not the brides stuck in 2015 with torn up gloves), Emily Post Institute has good info on this.

View Quoted Comment Interesting! Is there a word for that? I can’t find any images with ring slits.

View Quoted Comment This is an old post, but etiquette does not ever allow rings to be worn over the gloves, only bracelets. One must choose to either be lumpy or vulgar when wear wedding gloves