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Michaila
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We postponed our wedding - gift ettiquette?

Michaila, on October 6, 2019 at 1:01 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 3
So due to a lot of stuff going on - mainly losing my dad two months before my wedding and my brother being at boot camp and some family drama on my FH's side we decided to postpone our wedding until after the holidays. My dad's parents were still really raw at losing their son to Alzheimer's and the timing didn't feel right. We made this call 2 weeks before the wedding date we had originally picked (Oct 4) and notified all the people who had RSVPd, especially out of state. Covered cancellation costs and such.

I just changed our date to our tentative one in January on our Target registry yesterday (Oct 5) when we received a package from Target on our doorstep. I'm guessing it's from someone who couldn't make it and had ordered before we postponed. We also received a gift from a neighbor early. I don't know who bought us a gift from Target and we haven't opened it yet.

Should I open it now so I can find out who it's from and send a thank you note/explain things? I don't have to return it do I? We are still getting married...just later. If it's from someone who can't make it I'd feel bad if they didn't get a thank you note until February for a wedding that was supposed to be in October but I don't know the ettiquette on that.

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Latest activity by Clíodhna, on October 8, 2019 at 10:03 AM
  • Jennifer
    Devoted September 2020
    Jennifer ·
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    First, I'm so sorry for everything that's happening in your family right now. Nothing's harder than losing someone you love, and having to make the hard decision of moving your wedding must've been an ordeal in itself. I would say you've taken the right steps in notifying people of the date change as soon as you could, they don't need to reroute their gifts. I think general gift etiquette states that you should open and send thank you notes as soon as you receive the gifts anyway, so the date change doesn't really affect that. Just make sure everyone who wasn't able to go for your official date is aware of the new date so they can see if they can attend. Good luck and I'm so sorry for your loss.
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  • Cher Horowitz
    Master December 2019
    Cher Horowitz ·
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    I agree with PP. Just write a thank you card as normal and you should be good! I'm sorry you're having to go through all this Smiley heart

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  • Clíodhna
    WeddingWire Administrator January 2030
    Clíodhna ·
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    Hi there, Michaila.

    I agree with the advice given by the PP, this would be the best way to handle the gift.

    I also wanted to say I'm sorry to read all you've gone through. Sending you well wishes Smiley heart

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