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Long Distance Bride
Devoted June 2017

We don't want gifts. How do we politely tell guests that their presence is enough?

Long Distance Bride, on January 6, 2017 at 5:42 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 10

Hi again!

FH and I are having a destination(ish) wedding- 99% of people are going to have to buy plane tickets and hotel rooms. After spending all that money, we don't want to burden people with having to buy us gifts in addition to everything else. also, we don't need anything for our house, and we're not big fans of material things anyways. And, no, don't fret, we aren't asking them for money instead.

How to we politely insist to our guests that their presence at the wedding is more than enough?

10 Comments

Latest activity by HavanaChic, on January 6, 2017 at 10:58 PM
  • Polly
    VIP May 2017
    Polly ·
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    Don't make a registry and put on your website "your presence is our greatest gift" or somethkng like that

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  • Mrs. Coakley
    Master June 2017
    Mrs. Coakley ·
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    I feel like any mention of gifts is a little too assuming and might rub people the wrong way. I would not do a registry and just not say anything about gifts

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  • lyla
    Master July 2017
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    People will most likely still give you gifts. If you don't make a registry, they will probably just give you money.

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  • Melissa
    Master March 2018
    Melissa ·
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    Mentioning anything about gifts is considered rude. You're going to get stuff. It's what people do. Most likely money. Just don't register, I guess.

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  • MNA
    Master April 2018
    MNA ·
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    You don't. Don't register, and put a blurb on your wedding website. If people ask, just tell them you'd prefer no gifts.

    Expect to get them regardless.

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  • Miami2NorthernVA
    Master November 2017
    Miami2NorthernVA ·
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    Personally I would love you if you told me not to give you a gift. Maybe family can spread the word through word of mouth and you can put it on your wedding website. I think it is very considerate of you.

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  • Shannon
    Super May 2017
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    I agree with Miami but that is just me personally. It isn't like you wouldn't be grateful if you were to receive a gift anyways.

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  • Holly
    VIP June 2018
    Holly ·
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    I wouldn't mention gifts anywhere. Most people will ask you where you are registered and that is the appropriate time to say something about their presence being enough.

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  • MrsLosacco2B
    Expert August 2017
    MrsLosacco2B ·
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    Well this post is a breath of fresh air! I was bracing myself for the honeyfund or "we prefer cash" line! That is very considerate OP!

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  • HavanaChic
    Super February 2018
    HavanaChic ·
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    I wouldnt mention gifts at all, because it could get misunderstood that you are asking for money.

    No poems, no registry...

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