We are having an intimate wedding of 40 guests >>>

If it would cause you go to into debt for your wedding, don't do it.

But if it's one person, and you can possibly afford it, I would just do it.

I think that's a little bit early to have to have RSVPs due by, but that's not the question. If they're dating, this person needs to be invited. They're now a social unit and need to be invited together. You have plenty of time in the next three months to meet their partner if you're worried about meeting this person for the first time at your wedding.

Your final numbers probably aren't going to be due for a while. If the relationship "sticks" then you should include them but there is still time to see how things shake out.

Ooh, I didn't even see the RSVP date. Too early. By the time of your wedding, these people will have been together for 4 months.

IF they stay together! OP, are you having a DW? Why did your invitations go out so early? I found out about a few BF's/GF's right before we sent our invitations, and I included them. But our wedding is in June.

I'm super confused why you have rsvps already. Surely you don't need final numbers for two more months at least? Wait it out and see how it goes? If they're still dating when you need final numbers, yeah invite the SO.

It's just one person right? I'd say yes right now if they're waiting for an answer...however if they end up breaking up they may still want that plus 1 for your wedding...so either say no and keep the hard no or say yes and plan on it staying a yes even if they break up as that guest may find a date since you've granted the plus 1. One extra person isn't going to cost a whole lot more right? If you say no be prepared in case this guest chooses not to come at all for denying their new SO.

I say go ahead and add them and see how the relatuonship goes. But if you truly cant afford 1 more guest then just say im sorry but we are at the max of our venue

If I remember correctly, OP is having a DW in Italy, but I agree that it's still a little early to have RSVPs due. If you can afford to add one person, I would do it.

Wow I'm just now ordering my invites! But if you only had two people who didn't have a plus one, why didn't you just give them that option in the first place? Two extra people will not break the bank.

If you can afford them, id do it. Going to a destination wedding alone can really suck.

To add to @FutureMrs, if the 2 people are flying overseas for your wedding, you should definitely let them bring a guest!

If you are having a DW, then I would definitely give a plus one to them. If it's a local wedding, etiquette says you should. That being said, I've been to lots of weddings where people weren't given a plus one if they just started dating someone

If you asked for RSVP's this early, you can pretty much count on a couple of people dropping out for various reasons. I'd invite the two; it does suck to travel to a destination alone.

And by that time, weeks will have turned into months....

I'd say no. 2 weeks is barely a relationship, and you haven't even met them.

Oh wow @Jacqui that's kind of rude. Typically people casually date for some time before making it "official". So, I'm sure they've been seeing each other for more than two weeks but that's not for anyone to judge. I also don't need to personally know every single persons significant other that is invited to my wedding. What's a more perfect time to finally meet who my friends are dating?

Your invites went out too early and your RSVPs came in too early and now you're reaping the repercussions. Invite their SOs. Suck it up and let the lurkers learn from your mistake.

Nope, if they didn't have SO's when invitations went out, they do not get to bring them to the wedding. Don't go into debt over something this trivial.

I did give them that option in the first place and they said they didn't want to invite anyone.

Everyone knows everyone at the wedding so coming along for HIM isn't going to make a huge difference. £200p/h is a lot of money so yeah

RSVP's aren't due until 1st July btw. I didn't request them this early, he sent his RSVP back to me last week and only mentioned her yesterday.

And yeah, I like knowing what money I have left so when he told me he didn't want to bring a plus one (I said he could bring anyone, friend/family etc) that was all good.