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Beginner September 2019

We are having a dry wedding- help!

Alexa, on June 11, 2019 at 2:13 PM

Posted in Wedding Reception 23

Hi everyone! My fiance and I have been together for 5.5 years and have been engaged for 6 months. We are getting married on September 7th of this year. My fiance is DEAD SET on having a dry wedding. I would really like some alcohol there, but he has made it clear that he does not. We have tried to...

Hi everyone!

My fiance and I have been together for 5.5 years and have been engaged for 6 months. We are getting married on September 7th of this year.

My fiance is DEAD SET on having a dry wedding. I would really like some alcohol there, but he has made it clear that he does not. We have tried to discuss it, but it never goes well. We have actually been arguing about it for the last few weeks, and I am completely sick of it (and willing to just let it go). I should mention that he has allowed me to plan 100% of the other wedding details, and this is the one this that he has asked for.

So, we are having a dry wedding.

The kind of good news is that (1) We are already having a brunch/lunch reception and (2) The reception is only scheduled for 2.5 hours.

Right now, we have coffee, tea, soda, juice, and water. We are also thinking of renting an espresso bar to make the reception a little more fun.

Other random points:

  • We are inviting 93 guests and expecting 80-85 to show up

  • Renting a mic/speakers was around the same cost of hiring a DJ, so we will have a DJ and dancing. He is confident that his family will dance (they are used to dry weddings)

How bad does this sound? I am so worried that the reception will be boring, but I hate causing conflict with my fiance over this.

23 Comments

  • Thea
    Dedicated August 2019
    Thea ·
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    My take - a wedding is the combining of two families so it's not just his family traditions and opinions that matter here. I don't think you NEED alcohol, especially at a brunch wedding, but if YOU really want the mimosas, I think that's a good compromise and I think he's being unfair by refusing to entertain the idea.

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  • Kk
    Devoted October 2021
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    At this point, I would be more concerned with his unwillingness to compromise with you than what your guests think about a dry wedding. I understand he has his reasons, but you and others don't feel the same way. It's not fair to you that he's making you feel guilty about the champagne toast on your contract when you had no intention of "going behind his back." Him allowing you to plan 100% of the rest of the wedding was his decision and you shouldn't have to give in to a completely dry wedding if you don't want to because of it.

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  • Kim
    Super September 2019
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    I think it is alright to have a dry wedding for an early reception. My brother did this to his wedding but he only had about 50 guests. Unfortunately, nobody really got up to dance. He did have music, not a DJ but by his friend.

    I'm just wondering why FH is so dead set on having a dry wedding?
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