We all have that one person 🙄🙄

The first time around many moons ago, my brother in law proposed to his gf at our reception, immediately following our first dance. We hadn’t even cut the cake and we had no idea it was happening.


This time around I don’t share much so there’s less opportunity for hijacking or complaining.

Ugh YES -- the groomsman

there was one particular groomsman that was giving me so many headaches

1] he asked if he can have a plus one days before the wedding [he's married and has no kids so of course i invited his wife]. this additional plus one was his wife's friend who was in town -- WHY WOULD I WANT SOMEONE I DON'T KNOW DAYS BEFORE THE WEDDING TO COME JUST BECAUSE YOUR FRIEND IS IN TOWN?!

2] he did not want to link arms with a bridesmaid going down the aisle

3] i have a bridesman so i said ok then walk with my bridesman and you won't have to link arms. HE DIDN'T WANT TO DO THAT EITHER BECAUSE HE DIDN'T WANT TO BE PAIRED WITH A GUY... i mean seriously, what is wrong with you.

I ended up booting my bridesmaid at the wedding was starting. i've known her since I was 4 and she's always been VERY self-absorbed. I thought she'd changed when she took such good care of her mom while her mom was suffering from dementia and passing away. She was awesome. I was wrong about her growing up.

She wanted to be in the wedding. I gave her many outs if she needed them for financial reasons. She wouldn't make a decision about her dress until a MONTH before the wedding! Yes, a month. Then I had to buy it because she was short on cash. She did pay me back though. She was 45 minutes late to the rehearsal. She agreed to do my makeup day of the wedding. She lives 5 minutes away and was 2 hours late. I tried called and she didn't answer until she was nearly here. She made me late for my hair appointment. I had 15 minutes to do my hair. I looked fine but wasn't what i'd planned or envisioned. She was then 40 minutes late to the wedding. She lives less than 10 minutes away. When she finally showed up she wasn't even dressed! I had my husband's nephew be a bridesmaid. There are some funny pics. People were getting anstsy. Babies crying...people who needed to eat etc. She changed into the dress still, stayed the entire night, got drunk, then set me a nasty email about how upset SHE was

My mom is trying to invite the whole world and is not paying for anything for the wedding.

Oh my word, yes! My mom kept trying to make my wedding a family reunion and make me invite uncles and aunts I could care less for

What pisses me off is always my mom's suggestions. Just the other day I showed her pics of the bm's dresses and the first thing she did was look at a different picture and say now those bm dresses are stunning and gave me a look like "don't you agree?" Why? Basically her ideas are always better I guess.

The first time I got married was a year after my grandfather had passed away and my grandmother had a SO at the time. He was invited but I told my dad I didn’t want him in pictures because I didn’t know him and he wasn’t my grandfather. As pictures were happening my dad came up and said “he’s going to be in pictures smile and don’t be rude” ummmm what?! So a bunch of my grandparent pictures from my first wedding include this guy I had never met and who I only saw a handful of times after that.


This time around I didn’t talk to anyone about anything beforehand and H and I were in control (along with the help of our kick butt photographer) of every single person we got pictures with and every thing that happened throughout our day.

View Quoted Comment Oh jeez!!!! Sorry !!! Ahhhh

View Quoted Comment Omggggg I would have lost it !!!!

View Quoted Comment Um. W O W !!!!! So sorry ! Ugh some people just are insane !!

View Quoted Comment Ahh !!! Puts you in such an awful position!!

View Quoted Comment Hahah love that meme!!!!

View Quoted Comment Blahhhhh right ! Like sometimes ppl need to bite their tongues

View Quoted Comment Omg ! No way!!!! Ugh like put you on the spot !!!!

My grandmother has been a nightmare. I went to my dress appointments with 7 people: mom, sister, grandmothers on both sides, FMIL, and both FSIL's. I would have just gone with my mom and sister but was guilted into letting everyone be apart of the experience. We get to the salon and the consultant hasn't even finished her opening speech/directions and my grandmother is yanking dresses off the rack and putting them in the fitting room. Mind you: none of these styles appealed to me at all. She filled up the entire fitting room so the consultant finally said "okay lets all sit down and let her try some of these on so we don't overwhelm her with a million gowns at once." So we go behind the curtain and I've taken my clothes off to put a gown on. I literally had it at my ankles, look up, and my grandmother has her phone shoved through the curtain TAKING PHOTOS. You'll see me when I HAVE IT ON. Sit down!!!! I wanted to kill her by the time I finally found a dress.

More recently, I've been finalizing the guest list so I can order/send out STD's. We're trying to keep it around 200 in attendance. Our list was at 260 last week. I've already cut people that I would LIKE to come because I know some family members need to be invited. My grandmother and all of my grandmothers siblings are coming but I don't know her siblings well (they live in different states) so I texted her and asked her to get me some addresses. She replied a few days later with their addresses PLUS all of their kids (who I don't know at all and are not invited) AND her best friends!!!! I was like "uhhhh no. I've literally never met these people in my life." Her response was, "Well I want my best friends to come... I guess I'll have to visit with them another time." YEAH. YOU WILL. This isn't a community bingo night. Get a reality check!

***My grandmother is not paying for a thing.***

View Quoted Comment So annoying !!!! I get it with the inviting people - FH parents and my parents were like wanting this on and that one to come so I put an end to that and decided FH parents can have 8 guests and so can mine. And that’s including plus 1s so four couples . But what a headache !

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Good for you! I commend you for putting your foot down. My FMIL has also gone a little insane with the guest list. I should have set a limit to begin with.

View Quoted Comment Oh my goodness Taylor, you poor thing!!! I would be losing it!!

I just wrote a post called "Matron of Honor Zilla". My sister is driving me crazy about wedding details and wants everything her way! I'm not sure what to do. I try to keep family peace, but one day I may just lose it!

OMG yes! - My 1 bridesmaid (I have a total of 4, my bff, sister, SIL, and my friend from work)


My friend from work is VERY opinionated and I feel like she is trying to use my wedding as the wedding she never got.

When I told her how I wanted my bridesmaid hair (down & curled with one side pulled back) she said “that’s nice” but wouldn’t it be cool if I did this instead because I have been wanting to do this for a long time and it would be perfect if I can have that for your wedding” then proceeded to show me Viking women hair styles. Then another time I was telling her how my FH and I wanted to do comfort food (like BBQ, mac & cheese, meatballs etc) for our cocktail hour/ dinner and she said, “well I like going to weddings where they have fancy food and sea food because I normally wouldn’t buy that stuff because it’s expensive. (She knows my FH and I do not like sea food). Then just today I showed her a picture our our welcome sign for our wedding (which my FH and I thought came out perfect) and the first thing she said was, “eww I don’t like that lettering”

Like I am flabbergasted by how rude her opinions are. They are not needed!! Thank goodness the other 3 bridesmaids are so supportive because idk what to do about the other one.