Way too many guests

Why are people inviting people to your wedding?? That's crazy!

Jennifer, I said that too. Especially when no one is contributing financially!! I can see if they are helping, but they aren't.

Kristin I thought that was how it was, but I guess we didn't fool proof

I absolutely agree with the comments so far. If they weren't invited, they shouldn't come. Period. That's incredibly rude of them to invite others without even asking you!

So sorry you've had to go through this -- I can imagine the stress you're going through.

What Asta said, plus, you have place cards or escort cards with ONLY the names of the guests who were invited and responded yes to the RSVP. Does your venue have staff? If so, the staff turns everyone else away at the door. If no venue staff, a member of your FH's family turns them away. They created the problem, they deal with it.

OP, You need to get on the phone TODAY. Your wedding is super soon. Absolutely tell these people there are no extras

Tell them no. Who invites themselves to a wedding that is so odd.

I love how people think a wedding is just a huge fucking party!!!! Ugh seriously people piss me off!!! Definitely tell them no, and you also shouldn't have to clean up their mess! Make them call whoever they invited and drop them... you should not have to "chuck" up the money because of people who think this is just a day for you to blow all your money! Absolutely not girl, Do not let people do this to you!

I think the place has staff that can do the place cards

I think the place cards are a great idea!!

Is FH on the same page with you? Hopefully. Tell his mom, no room.

Karen K, yes, he called them and they had a nice argument, but I'm not sure if anyone called to tell them no

Claim you have reached the venue capacity and since those people were technically not on the guest list, you cannot accommodate them

Before you do the place card thing, GET ON THE PHONE. Don't just do the place cards. That'll piss people off and the people they're with will most likely leave too leaving you with "no shows". I would call the people and say no and let them decide if they come or not.

Lol. @ asta, I'm usually a passive person, but my nails have grown since our engagement. His family is very pushy

Uuuhhhmmm NO! We specifically told the people we invited that our wedding was INVITATION ONLY and DO NOT SHARE the invitation or the link to our website with anyone. So far they have all honored that requests. We have had some of my FH family members who were not invited call and ask when they would be getting invitations etc. and he has politely but firmly explained to them that sadly they didn't make the invite list.

I 1000% AGREE with the above posts! Your FH should call those who invited others to your wedding and tell them to fix it and uninvite them - otherwise it might fall to him to call them directly. I wouldn't let this pass and they show up to your wedding and cause a scene when they get turned away. AND I DAMN SURE would NOT cough up extra money to accomodate them!

I would definitely allow the other guest to bring someone if for no other reason than at least she was CLASSY enough to ask.

Just my 2 cents!!

P.S. I would also add a note that is visible on the front page of your website that RSVP submissions from individuals who did not receive a official invitation from the bride or groom will NOT be honored!!!

Wait an extra 20 people is only an extra $400?

Thank you all. I will be having a talk with FH when I get home.

Sos0033 it may be more... I would have to check