Wanting to not invite everyone

Hi Melissa! I’m Wanda and I’m getting married in December. Note: I’m not an expert but I can respond as a bride friend 💗


It sounds like you have a supportive group of colleagues that are excited for your wedding. I’m happy for you! But yes, your feelings on not wanting to invite everyone to your wedding is totally valid. A wedding is one of the most special times in a couple’s life so your desire to be surrounded by only people you love and who genuinely cares about you makes sense. Just know that you are not obligated to invite everyone. The wedding is about YOU and your fiancé 💗
And you’re not alone… Based on my experience so far, I realized that finalizing the guest list is one of the most stressful parts of the wedding planning process due to the family/friends dynamics, expectations and politics. I recently had my aunt ask me if I’m inviting her husband’s brother and his family (5 ppl that I’m not close to! 😑). I respectfully said no and explained that we are prioritizing close family members and are still figuring out our budget. She understood and didn’t ask again.
Hope this is helpful!

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And CONGRATS !!!!
I hope you have an amazing stressfree day!

Hi Melissa, that is a tough situation. There is no way to not hurt people's feelings. You can always tell them there is a budget, but the nine uninvited will know they were not as important as the six invited.

My husband and I are renewing our vows with a big Catholic wedding. Our marriage was just to make it official at our condo on the lake. We just invited everyone in the condo, so we did not hurt anyone's feelings.

My advice is do the same. The expense of nine more guests is well worth keeping the peace in your work environment. Plus, it's always nice to make people happy. If it was 100 more people, that would be a different story. Hope this helps.

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Haha thanks! Same to you The wedding stress is REAL!

I understand your dilemma. My fiance is from a large family (8 siblings). His extended family would love to join us but we both want an intimate weekend. We are inviting only immediate family and providing a link so extended family and friends can "virtually" join us in our celebration. If they truly love and support your marriage, they will be happy to be included in this way.

Don't invite any of them... tell them as much as you would like everyone there due to limited space at the venue...budget... blah blah blah. And save yourself the headache later

Congratulations on your engagement! 💕 A small guest list is completely okay. If it comes up, just let your coworkers know you're keeping the wedding intimate and unfortunately can't invite everyone. Most people will understand, and those who care about you will simply be happy for you.

Congratulations on your engagement! 💕 Keeping your guest list small is completely understandable. I'd avoid discussing wedding invitations at work as much as possible, and if anyone asks, simply say you're having a small, intimate wedding and couldn't invite everyone. Most people will understand, and those who care about you will be happy for you regardless.