Walking down the aisle

I'm going to walk half way down the aisle alone and then my FH is going to meet me there and kneel and kiss my hand and then I will take his arm and we will walk the rest of the way together.

My son is walking me down the aisle. I don't talk to my dad very often and he's not even invited to the wedding.

If your guests are going to stare and judge, then they shouldn't be there because then they're obviously not a very good freind/family member, Sorry if that was harsh, but no worries, I doubt anyone will judge you if you walk alone or with your brother. Pick what you feel comfortable with and if your dad voices his opinion, just tell him you didn't feel comfortable with him walking you down the aisle and you hope that he can undestand.

I am actually riding a horse down the aisle. i may or may not have my brother lead the horse. long story for my decision that i won't bore you with! i think you need to just do what is right for you and your situation - don't worry about what people think. It is your day. If they want to judge you they probably aren't people that are close enough to you to even be at your wedding.

My dad passed away in 2002 and it was between my big brother and my gpa. I have decided to have my gpa walk me down the aisle..he has always treated me like I was his youngest. He is just really REALLY nervous to be walking me down the aisle..he had polio when he was younger so he has a disfigured walk..but it should be ok! He means the world to me and my brother will be coming back down to help my soon to be step son pull my daughter (will be 13 mo) down the aisle in her wagon.

My uncle will walk me if his health permits the trip (struggling with cancer atm) otherwise I am flying solo. Honestly my family is kind of shocked that uncle walking me was my first choice...I came out the womb grown and independant according to my mom

My father passed away in September and I don't want to walk alone so my oldest brother is walking me down.

@Angela - thats a great idea! I like the way you think

@Future Ms.Schmidt - its not harsh, its the truth and I agree with you. Unfortunately my family is a bit judementel and I can't not invite them to the wedding. Im hoping my dad wont have a HUGE issue with it since he doesnt like public things anyway....but I know my mom has already told him that he'd need to walk me down. I havent even said anything about it to him and my mom and she decided for me. Yikes!

@Nicci and Sloane - Im sorry about your loss, sounds like you girls would haved loved to have your father walk you down. But your ideas right now are great.

I originally didn't want my dad to do it, even though we are SUPER close and my parents are still married, because the tradition of the father "giving away" the bride is offensive to me personally. So FH and I were going to have our "special guests" walk down and then FH and I follow. I loved the idea of the two of us entering together. It's a partnership and our first steps together should be together. However, the hurt on my dad's face was enough to change the order of everyone, putting him and I last. But he will stop short and sit down and I'll walk the other 5 feet alone because I don't want it to be like him giving me away.

Lily: I have had brides in your situation ask BOTH parents to walk them down.... take a look at this photo album from my website, one of the brides had both, and it looked beautiful:

http://www.lovely-uniqueweddings.com/Liberty_Mt.php

@jlm826 - Thats how the "traditional" russian weddings used to work; bride and groom walk in together...but everyone has since adopted the father walking the bride down the aisle idea. Im sure its great for some, just not in my situation. Ill have to talk to my FH and see if he wants to walk down with me, or just wait for me at the end of the aisle.

@Lovely weddings - the pictures are beautiful!! Looks like there are some nice locations in your area.

As an officiant, I think I've seen every possible way to get the bride down the aisle. Some have walked alone, some have walked with the groom, some came part way with father and rest of the way with stepfather, some came with mom, some came with mom & dad, some with grandfather or uncle or brother; my hubby walked my future sister-in-law down the aisle so I could marry her to my brother. Personally, my father was not part of my life, so I walked myself down the aisle.

I will have both of my children walking me down the aisle, and we decided that FH's daughter will walk with him down the aisle and all three kids will stand with us.