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Just Said Yes September 2016

Walking down the aisle alone?

murphy, on February 19, 2016 at 7:45 PM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 30

So has anyone ever seen a bride walk down the aisle alone without it being weird? Long story short my parents aren't together and my mom pretty much raised me as a single mom. I have a decent relationship with my dad but don't really care if he comes to the wedding or not, my mom insists he be...

So has anyone ever seen a bride walk down the aisle alone without it being weird? Long story short my parents aren't together and my mom pretty much raised me as a single mom. I have a decent relationship with my dad but don't really care if he comes to the wedding or not, my mom insists he be invited. I do feel bad about having him be there and choosing my mom to walk me down the aisle alone but I also feel weird about it being both of them. Something about having someone who kind of sucked as a parent walking you down the aisle feels fake to me.

I'm wondering if there's an alternative? They walk down together first and then I follow? My mom holds no ill will towards my dad so wouldn't have a problem with that. Any advice would be appreciated.

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  • Nonna T
    Master April 2014
    Nonna T ·
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    Sure you can!

    Joe and I walked together Smiley smile

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  • MauiWowie
    VIP April 2016
    MauiWowie ·
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    Ugh. Can the concept of "giving away" please just die? It hasn't be relevant in decades.

    That being said, what I'm looking forward to the most are the moments BEFORE I walk down the aisle with my dad. When it's just us, and I know he'll say something weird, but funny, and we'll laugh. Who do you want to share that moment with? That's your answer. (It's OK if the answer is nobody.)

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  • Kimi
    Master August 2016
    Kimi ·
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    I'm walking halfway by myself, then FH will come meet me and go the rest of the way together. Symbolic of our lives, start alone, finish together. I haven't seen or spoken to my dad in 10-15 years. He is not invited.

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  • Sunni
    VIP May 2016
    Sunni ·
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    I don't think it'll look weird at all. I considered it myself but feel having someone next to me would help calm me. I'll have my mom walk me. Considering having my bro join us as well.

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  • A&C
    Dedicated April 2016
    A&C ·
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    Since your mom raised you as a single parent I personally would give her the honor of walking you down the aisle.

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  • I am Mrs. rjd
    Super September 2016
    I am Mrs. rjd ·
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    I'm walking alone--parents are deceased. I thought about having my adult sons do it, but I thought it would look awkward to have both of them and I didn't want to choose one and hurt the feelings of the other one, so I'm walking alone. Plus, my FH has asked them both to be GMs, so that works better. I agree with A&C, let your mom do it.

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  • J
    Just Said Yes March 2017
    Juanita ·
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    I was having the same problem however that's because my dad has past. I'm using my uncle who I am very close to which is my dad brother. However when it comes to who give this bride away all my brothers are going to say "we do". And as for my dance, it'll be my uncle and then my brothers.

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    Super August 2016
    MrsC. ·
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    My oldest daughter has her best male friend walk her and my middle

    Daughter has her FIL walk her....my FH and I are walking together since I have no one to ask we are doing a simple ceremony

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  • StitchingBride
    Master October 2014
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    I walked alone, but I'm wondering if your mom is expecting him to walk you down. Curious why she would insist on his being invited.

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  • E
    Just Said Yes July 2016
    EJ ·
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    I'm walking down the aisle unescorted. I grew up the youngest in an abuse household. I've tried to hold on to a relationship with my father and while he did expect to walk me down the aisle with him I'm very happy to walk myself. Not only does it feel like a facade, I don't like the symbolism of a man (especially one who is the opposite of a positive male example) giving me to another man as if passing ownership. I also don't believe he has earned to honor. I've always been very independent and haven't been able to rely on family. I'm excited to be standing on my own - I think it displays strength, is aligned with my beliefs and personality, is more dramatic for the audience and allows me a quieted mind so I can focus on my husband to be.

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