Post content has been hidden

To unblock this content, please click here

Super October 2020

Wait what? Mask don’t work for your family?

Flag
Hide content

Emma, on September 3, 2020 at 12:13 PM

The name crossed out is her HUSBAND. Her and her kids are fine with wearing mask.
For context This is someone I used to babysit for as a teenager. I’ve always loved their family! Her, her husband, and their 2 kids were invited. I have known and babysit for them for 6 or 7 years! I told her that by state and the venues rules the mask are mandatory for everyone. The only time people will be without a mask is me and my dad walking down the isle, and me and my FH during the ceremony (pastor will be standing 6 feet away, I see my dad on a weekly, almost daily basis, and the chairs will be 6 feet from the isle) but after that they are mandatory or everyone. then she text me again and said that her and her daughter would like to come. Part of me is freaked out because if her husband isn’t wearing a mask, and then coming home to then, that would be increasing their chance of catching COVID.

Show all

35 Comments

VIP September 2020
Willow · on September 4, 2020 at 12:48 AM
Flag

Hide content
View Quoted Comment
It's not petty. It's a public health issue. One that is impacting the entire globe.

I think you missed the part where the guest originally declined for her entire family, and now wants to come with her daughter. OP is concerned that guest and daughter may be more likely to have been exposed because of the husband who refuses to mask up under any circumstances. It's a valid concern.
- Reply
Master August 2019
Rebecca · on September 4, 2020 at 5:20 AM
Flag

Hide content
So.. her husband would happily risk his own life, his family's life, and everyone around him, because... of a piece of fabric? And he'll gladly miss out on major events because, again, of a piece of fabric?

Yeah, cool, stay *away* from me. I'm in a mask-mandated state and city, and I still see people without them/noses out. I'm high-risk and my industry won't come back until this thing is gone...
I'm not sure I'd be able to be nice to her. If you can't tell your husband he's being ridiculous and endangering his own life...
Tell her they can't come unless they wear masks. End of story, not sorry.
- Reply
Dedicated April 2022
Countrydarlin2022 · on September 4, 2020 at 5:51 AM
Flag

Hide content
Gosh I think they should still be able to come do you know if the husband has any reason why he can’t wear one due to any health reasons? I can’t wear one due to personal reasons. I think you should leave it up to the family but make your wishes known about your preference and as long as your wedding won’t get shut down to his choice than I think you should not worry about it
- Reply
Dedicated April 2022
Countrydarlin2022 · on September 4, 2020 at 5:55 AM
Flag

Hide content
View Quoted Comment
I think that’s harsh seriously what if the man has a medical issue you don’t disinvite someone over a mask
- Reply
Super October 2020
Emma · on September 4, 2020 at 6:03 AM
Flag

Hide content
View Quoted Comment
They were told anyone with a health condition is not required to wear one so I know that’s not the case.
- Reply
Super October 2020
Emma · on September 4, 2020 at 6:27 AM
Flag

Hide content
View Quoted Comment
I wouldn’t be the one that’s disinviting him. He’d pretty much be disinviting himself because he “can’t” follow the venue, and state, rules. If he were to show up without a mask, and they were enforcing the mask policy, then he would be kicked out because he doesn’t have a medical condition keeping him from wearing one. I’ve decided to let her and her daughter come but he will still not be allowed without a mask.
- Reply
Super October 2020
Emma · on September 4, 2020 at 6:33 AM
Flag

Hide content
View Quoted Comment
Technically no, she messaged me the last day that I was giving everyone. I’ve decided to let her and her daughter come after sitting down and talking to my mom.
- Reply
VIP February 2020
Julie · on September 4, 2020 at 9:30 AM
Flag

Hide content
View Quoted Comment
This completely
- Reply
Expert November 2020
Annika · on September 4, 2020 at 10:39 AM
Flag

Hide content
This makes me so annoyed. I am an essential worker in the grocery industry and even my coworkers who have been working through this whole thing refuse to wear a mask correctly. Under their nose, as a chin guard, you name it. I am requiring masks for at LEAST the indoor reception (ceremony is outside) and I spent around $550 out of my budget to provide masks for everyone and have hand sanitizer everywhere and as favors. If people want to be butts and not follow SCIENTIFIC guidelines that are CLEARLY shown on our website and stuff, then sorry, I don't want them at my wedding.
I would say to this family that the other option for him is a face shield (then at least he is partly covered and can breathe easier) or they can celebrate from afar. I am getting increasingly nervous for my wedding guests cooperating, especially my mom. She hates wearing a mask and believes the government is trying to control everybody through mask wearing...smh. Good luck!!
- Reply
Devoted August 2020
Kate · on September 4, 2020 at 11:29 AM
Flag

Hide content
View Quoted Comment
No I didn’t miss that part, which is why I said that I think the OP should encourage a celebration with them at a later time, but I stand by my opinion that disinviting them is extreme and rude.
- Reply
Super October 2020
Emma · on September 4, 2020 at 11:38 AM
Flag

Hide content
View Quoted Comment
They’d be disinviting themselves by not following the rules. I had no obligation to tell her yes to her and her daughter coming because they technically rsvpd no.
- Reply
Devoted August 2020
Kate · on September 4, 2020 at 11:42 AM
Flag

Hide content
View Quoted Comment
Exactly! In no way am I advising that you tell them yes, but wording it the way that pp suggested and saying they are “disinvited” is rude.
- Reply
VIP August 2021
Katie · on September 4, 2020 at 12:55 PM
Flag

Hide content
To each their own. I have family/friends who will not wear a mask no matter what as well, but if it's state mandated then it's simple they either suck it up and wear it or they simply don't get to come. I have people asking me if I'm going to force everyone to wear a mask at the wedding, my wedding is a year away and all I tell them is that it's not up to me it's all up to the state and venue. And if it still is state mandated anyone who won't bother to come to my wedding cause they refuse to wear one for my wedding well it just will show me where I stand in their life.
- Reply
Legend July 2019
MrsD · on September 4, 2020 at 2:03 PM
Flag

Hide content
I really couldn't care less what other people do about masks. If they want to wear one, great. If they don't, great. Doesn't matter to me (personally). If your venue & you/your fiance require a mask, then just tell her you are sorry but that won't work. I don't think it needs to become a thing, at least she is reaching out prior vs not talking to you about it and causing an issue at the wedding. I think not having her husband come to accommodate state & wedding requirements and just coming with her and her daughters is a really great solution.
- Reply

VIP August 2020
· on September 4, 2020 at 3:04 PM
Flag

Hide content
View Quoted Comment
Well that's gracious of you. For what it's worth, I don't think they actually pose that much of a risk as long as they're wearing masks while they're at the wedding, which it sounds like they will be.
- Reply