Wait what? Mask don’t work for your family?

To each their own. All you can do is pray for them or wish them good fortune.
I do not like wearing masks myself. I have asthma and the mask makes it even more difficult to breathe. The face shields make such a difference with my breathing for the better.

Wow.... Well, I guess that is a choice, but if it were me, their choice would mean that, unfortunately, we'd miss them all at the wedding. There have been several articles this week explaining why weddings in particular are such high-risk events (and the number of cases associated with one Maine wedding just continue to ripple throughout that guest list...). Personally, regardless of the state and venue requirements, I would not have guests attend who refuse to wear masks. They are free to make that choice, but I would not potentially put people I love at any additional risk because of their choices. I'm so sorry.... Oh, well, four less people you'll need to pay for! Hang in!

View Quoted Comment I have asthma as well so I feel you there. At some points during work I have to pull the mask under my nose to be able to actually catch my breath. It just amazes me that they’d ask even though it says they are required on the website. Technically he could say he has a medical condition and not wear one if he really wanted to.

View Quoted Comment That’s what I told FH. 4 less people mean over $100 saved! So I’m not super upset about it. Honestly I prefer my guest to wear mask. It’s just easier telling them it’s the state (which they should know because they live here) and venues rule then have them complain to me!

Is the husband willing to wear a face shield instead of a mask? If not, I would tell them sorry that he isn't able to attend, and that you will miss him at your reception. Let the wife and kids decide if they still want to attend without him (while wearing masks). Since you made masks mandatory, and for the safety of everyone, I wouldn't suggest making an exception for him, since then you'd have to make an exception for anyone else who doesn't want to wear one (and then the masks are now suggested instead of required). Whoever isn't OK with the masks will unfortunately be unable to attend.

People never cease to amaze me...

View Quoted Comment I’m not sure about the shield but the fact that he hasn’t been wearing one is what concerns me

View Quoted Comment Personally if I was in her shoes I wouldn’t have even text the bride! She could have just marked him as decline and her and the kids as accept

Regardless of whether you agree with masks or not, it is extremely rude to ask for permission not to wear one if told that it is required. Medical issues preventing you from wearing it is one thing, but straight up refusing to wear one "under any circumstances" is ridiculous, especially in this climate right now.

View Quoted Comment Agreed! I’ll be the first to admit I wasn’t happy about the mask at all. But since wearing one for over 3 months, I’ve gotten used to it (aside from having to deal with it in 100+ degree and heat induced asthma 😂)

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Oh I can imagine! I'd have been upset as well. I feel so bad for brides right now, but everyone seems to be making the most of it (and taking some fun, goofy mask pictures to remember forever!) Glad you're still able to go through with the wedding, at the end of the day, marrying the man you love is the most important part! (And lol that sounds miserable! I've been there myself! Hope your wedding day is under 100 degrees 😂)

If your wedding is important enough to them, they will do what they need to do to attend. They shouldn't be bothering you with that at this moment. I'm sure you have enough to deal with. If it doesn't work for them, they should have just responded that they were not able to attend.

View Quoted Comment We’re hoping for a cool 75😂😂

Wow that's ballsy. I would tell her sorry but she and the children will be missed, and leave it at that.


Unfortunately some people think the pandemic is a hoax or parallel universe that doesn't apply to them. Best of luck.

Masks are currently mandated in our wedding state for ALL indoor and outdoor activities. Now the state has also noted that they will not be sticklers with weddings.

We are supplying our guests with masks, but at the end of the day it's up to them on whether they choose to wear it or not. There's a lot of controversy about the use of masks and who knows what is right and what is wrong. I know people that have gotten covid wearing a mask and those that have got it without. All you can do is tell them what the state / county mandates are and hope they are kind enough to follow and take others into consideration or just not attend.

Friends got some push back month before last, when they notified all, and where previously the invitation said all must wear masks. Wanting Mom, her SO, and a brother to come, with them refusing masks, they notified all: We will leave it to people's individual conciensce and choice, but encourage wearing masks.
Well, what a surprise when 41 of 47 guest who had RSVP Yes, contacted the couple and said, if you are not requiring masks, other people will not be safe to be around. Leaving 3 groomsmen who would wear masks, but did not care about what others did, Mom, her SO, and grown son to come to a $15K wedding, and the rest of the wedding gone. So, they quickly realized that they might as well not have a wedding, as give in to Mom's demands and have no one. So they called everyone, said, All must wear masks. Will evict non- mask wearers. And it was on again, all in masks. They did an excellent job . Good for the wife who stood with her kids and other's safety while at your wedding. It was a great wedding, and by seating little groups of 2,3 or 5 people who lived in close proximity or worked up close at small rectangular tables, and allowing about 12 feet to the nearest person, in the next pod, rather than the open space in the middle of 60 and 72" round tables. So staff passing through the 12' space were distant and safe too. I was happy they did hold it, since they and all guests and vendors clearly had a good time.

I would not excuse just only them from it if you aren’t other people ya know? It is what it is they’ll just have to miss it

I'd disinvite the entire family.


"Thank you so much for the heads up. I want to have all of you at my wedding very much, and I know that you want to attend as well. Sadly, I have to withdraw my invite for your entire family. If Husband refuses to wear a mask under any circumstances, that puts all of you at risk, and your attendance puts everyone at the wedding at risk. I cannot in good faith allow this. Please know that I don't make this decision lightly, and I will miss you very much."

Your RSVP date already passed, right? You can tell her you already marked them down as a no because of her first response, but you hope you'll be able to see them when it's safer to be around (unmasked) people again.

View Quoted Comment This is rude, harsh and unnecessary. Simply reply that yes, masks are required for safety reasons, and that you hope you can celebrate with them sometime in the future as another pp suggested. There is no reason to ‘disinvite’ someone when they are already saying they’re declining the invite if masks are required. Even if you disagree with their logic, that just seems petty. Keep it polite while still being clear that the mask rule will be enforced through the entire event.