Vows, help

We read ours to each other privately the night before and got most of the blubbering out. We still got emotional during the ceremony but nowhere near as bad.

Honestly no matter how many times I've gone over mine and practiced it I always choke up anyway aha. Love can be overwhelming but your wedding day is full of it so it's ok to let it flow

Oh Hannah, this is so sweet

Perhaps just repeated practicing, with time, may make it easier?

Would Megan's approach work? Or do you want to keep the vows a surprise for your FS on the day?

My officiant also suggested that I, since I am a blubbering cry baby, should go first because I probably would not make it once he says his. One tip I read, that I am hoping will help me was to read our vows to each other the night before so the worst of the crying is out of the way and you know more what to expect. Good luck!

I don't know how open you are to taking something but try taking 200 mg of L-theanine which is an over the counter green tea extract amino acid. Works like a natural xanax. Try that at home and see if you can get through the vows like 1 hour after taking it. It helps with calming and focus.

So I cried while writing my vows, and many times while reading them. At the ceremony itself, I welled up a lot but didn’t full-on cry, and I think that’s because (1) I was in shock that it was actually happening (2) anxiety about public speaking held the emotion back a bit.

On the other hand, my husband started SOBBING the moment he saw me down the aisle, and he basically continued for the entire ceremony. So many of our guests said they saw him crying and then THEY started crying too. My cousin said he had never seen his dad cry until our ceremony. Many people said we had the most heartfelt, genuine, and beautiful ceremony they had ever seen—and I think a HUGE part of that was the fact that we allowed ourselves to get very emotional!

Though this may not be the answer you’re looking for (haha) I’d say let yourself cry! I seriously think that’s so beautiful to be THAT overwhelmed with love for your partner, and your guests will probably think the same.

Side-note: tuck a tissue or two between your hand and your bouquet in case you need to wipe your eyes!

Practice doing it in your head first memorizing it and then practice it in the mirror. It’s okay to have those happy tears and remember to breath. The more of this the better.

Aw... that’s a beautiful problem to have! We are doing the same, writing our vows & knowing how good my FH is with words & how romantic I am, I know I’ll be crying & I’m pretty sure he will be too. But honestly, don’t fight it, just let it be, give in to your emotions & don’t mind the guests. I agree with Gen, your guests will feel your emotions & they will probably be moved by them.