Vow Renewing...is it ok to go all out?

Hello, Kinda new here. So my husband and I want to renew our vows for our 5 year ann. We had MAJOR problems with our wedding, such as us having to find new place 3 months before the wedding, a wall being torn down at the venue we found weeks before our wedding (they just hung a curtain to block it!), it was so HOT in there, our DJ played nothing from our list we gave him, our videographer (a relative) missed major key points - such as our first kiss as husband & wife, being introduce as Mr. & Mrs (both times!) and the rest of the video was dark and had nothing but his kids on it! With the venue being so hot, our cake was melting. Our "florist" had an "emergency" and ended up using fake cheap looking flowers. And the little chapel we got married in wouldn't let us decorate a little, use flowers, nothing. So, would it be wrong to do it all the way we want? I've heard we shouldn't make it big because it's not a wedding but also got "do it your way, break rules!" Any help please. Thanks.