Vow Renewal Rules?

My husband and I are planning to renew our vows. We are dressing casually and we are having just an officiant. Is this wrong?

My husband and I will be married for 15 years in 2017. And we plan on renewing our vows on our anniversary. For reasons I rather not mention, my dad did not walk me down the aisle, my step father did. Also there are a few things I would like to do differently. I became very discouraged while reading other sites saying that this is tacky, that is a "no" or a "don't". This is VERY ENCOURAGING!! I have my best friend that I want to stand up with me, but I have read elsewhere saying that "attendants are tacky". But, I still want her beside me, because she has been beside me through a lot! I am glad to see the overwhelming support and encouragement on here!! I feel that this is "our" day and I was turned away from doing this while looking elsewhere. I was thinking that maybe we should not be doing this. I have changed my mind! I will continue to go through with the planning of our vow renewal! Thanks for all the positive vibes on here!

I'm so glad I stumbled on this site. My husband and I are renewing on 9/9/17 for our 15th wedding anniversary and doing a handfasting ceremony as an alternative. I do plan on having "guys and dolls" rather than a wedding party because all we had at our JOP ceremony was two witnesses who we barely speak to anymore. My dolls will be those who are closest to me now rather than a remberance of what was 15 years ago. We are doing it in a barn and I am DIYing the whole thing with pom poms and pinwheels and I am self-catering. My husband almost died a couple of years ago so I have said screw it to etiquette and traditions and we are doing our own thing in our own style. Go for it, ladies and gents. You only live once and life is too short for following rules and regulations (obviously don't do the shower or gifts, but all else is fair game). Have fun and love every minute of planning and celebrating!

Ok, so my husband and I got married in 2013. We really didn't have a wedding and we really want to plan a vow renewal for next year. Life has been busy otherwise this would have already been done. Give me your thoughts on having a vow renewal at the4 year mark. I know that is an odd year.

Hubby and I just celebrated 28 yrs of marriage last Saturday and we are renewing our vows in a formal but intimate wedding-style ceremony with a cake and punch reception. I spent $1600 on a ivory champagne wedding gown and he will wear a gray suit. Our children and their spouses are standing up with us. The girls are wearing long dresses (same color/different styles) & the guys are wearing gray dress slacks and vest with black shirts and ivory champagne ties. Our first wedding was formal but was a mess and I wanted a re-do. The minister wasn't exactly happy with my choice of a husband, and he let me know how he felt. The accompanist had a heart attack the night before the wedding so I had to record myself playing the piano so my singers could still sing the 5 songs I had chosen. The professional photos we had taken were horrible (and we've since lost them anyway during one of our moves). I just want to get it right this time and make beautiful new memories with the man God gave me, no matter who didn't like it. My wedding day was nothing but stressful and I didn't even enjoy it. One guest asked me if I was happy because I never smiled once during the ceremony. This time will be my dream wedding. No $150 JC Penney Outlet gown this time around.

My husband and I got married at the end of a regular Sunday service real quick with our congregation. We are renewing our vows in March. We have no help to pay for the wedding so we have been saving. And it is extremely hurtful to see what some women are saying. It makes me feel downright awful and like I shouldn't be doing this! "Ettiquette" and all that jazz... It is HARD to pay for a wedding! We are making sacrifices though and we are excited.... I was wondering if anyone could give me some input though.... Can I ask girls to be my "bridesmaids" ? I never had any and I don't know what to refer to them as etc.... Any suggestions (kind) would be lovely..

I know this is a really old post, but I wanted to say thank you to all the amazing people on this post. Before I found this post I was feeling really discouraged to do my vow renewal. I feel like people who feel like it's tacky, "selfish (lol), or a gift grab, are people who hate wedding planning or think that weddings are just for gifts. I don't see how a vow renewal is any different than going on a huge vacation for your anniversary or doing something special on Valentine's day. I don't understand if you're not paying for it what the big deal is? A lot of things aren't necessary, but people do them any way because it's important to them. (Having engagement rings, a wedding dress, having a big wedding at all) Not of that is necessary, but people do it because they want to. My wedding was really special, but I want to do an intimate ceremony with my husband just to express our love for each other. Since being married we've added two twin girls. The stress of that and other things could have tore us apart, but instead have brought us closer. What, I ask, could be wrong with spending OUR OWN personal money on expressing our love to each other? Again I want to say thank you to all of you amazing women!

Ok ladies help me out. So my husband and I got married in 2006, it was just him and I. We are planning our "real" wedding in June since we didn't have one 11 yrs ago. Back then our kids and family and friends were not involved. Now we have a combined 4 kids and a grand daughter and all are in our wedding. So my question is, do I ask for gifts and stuff if it's not our first wedding even though we never really had a wedding or reception? Please help me out. What should I do?

We are going on year 12 and we didn't have a wedding. I really want to do a 15 year VR in 2020 and pretty sure I'm going to go full out. No gift registry of course. But I want a bridal party. They may not walk down the aisle.. but I'm going to incorporate them somehow.

We are renewing our vows it will be thirty years we have been married on the exact same day as we married in scotland near gretna green about 35 guest so excited. its up to tou how big or small you have it. we are calling it a celebration of marriage. its all about the both of you and that you love each other. do what you want your only on this planet once . make everything special to you. i fully intend to do that for ours.

Hello my name is melissa and my husband and I will be married for 3 years in August of this year. We gor married August 10th of 2017 but we didnt really have a wedding. We had 4 people come plus our newborn baby there. We had a small ice cream cake. We didnt even have a reception, just a 30 min long cermony and thats it.Well anyways my husband asked me to marry him again today 💖 What can we do as a wedding or vow renewal. We are wanting to do it on August 10th of this year but i do not know what we can do. Please help me!!!!