My husband and I got married recently in the courthouse because he is in the marines, and we didn't have much time to plan a big wedding. We plan to have a vow renewal/celebration/wedding in a few years once I get out of graduate school, and we have a lot of money saved up for it. My question is this.... am I allowed to have bridesmaids, a big white dress, my dad walk me down the aisle, a first dance, a wedding cake, and all of the things that are entailed with a wedding?
I understand that asking for gifts and having a shower isn't right, but what about everything else? Ever since I was little, I wanted that big traditional wedding with my husband, and I'm extremely sad that I didn't get that chance the first time around with him. I have read different things on numerous websites, and these negative posts saying "you're not a bride, it's not a wedding, you don't get bridesmaids" etc. are very discouraging to me. So, please give me your opinions! And thank you in advance