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Just Said Yes October 2021

Vow renewal help!!!??!?

Kelly, on February 8, 2017 at 9:59 AM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 47

Hi ladies! My husband and I got married recently in the courthouse because he is in the marines, and we didn't have much time to plan a big wedding. We plan to have a vow renewal/celebration/wedding in a few years once I get out of graduate school, and we have a lot of money saved up for it. My...

Hi ladies!

My husband and I got married recently in the courthouse because he is in the marines, and we didn't have much time to plan a big wedding. We plan to have a vow renewal/celebration/wedding in a few years once I get out of graduate school, and we have a lot of money saved up for it. My question is this.... am I allowed to have bridesmaids, a big white dress, my dad walk me down the aisle, a first dance, a wedding cake, and all of the things that are entailed with a wedding?

I understand that asking for gifts and having a shower isn't right, but what about everything else? Ever since I was little, I wanted that big traditional wedding with my husband, and I'm extremely sad that I didn't get that chance the first time around with him. I have read different things on numerous websites, and these negative posts saying "you're not a bride, it's not a wedding, you don't get bridesmaids" etc. are very discouraging to me. So, please give me your opinions! And thank you in advance

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  • Ashley
    Dedicated July 2022
    Ashley ·
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    Hey Honey! Forget what other people think! It's Your life, Your husband and your wedding! You make the rules not other people and especially not total strangers on weddingwire.com lol... me and my husband had a small intimate wedding just us ,our children and our parents in the park and we will be having our vow- renewal a,k.a wedding celebration in a few years. And guess what? WE are going all out! Yes I'm having my Bridesmaids, but I call them my "SISTAHS" they all add value to my life, my dad is walking me down, I'm doing my first dance with my dad and my grandfather because my wedding date is his birthday and he will be turning 86! We are treating our bridal party to a coed Bachelorette & bachelore party weekend in Las vegas. We are all good friends! and this is a huge celebration! Our 1st Ceremony was good enough and our vow- renewal will be just as special. I'm also having a DJ, A cake ,photographer and videographer! So go for it it Girl!!! I can't wait to see pictures of your big day!!

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  • S
    Just Said Yes June 2021
    Sara ·
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    AGREED!!! Have the wedding/vow renewal your happy with regardless of anyone else opinions!

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  • Nicolette
    Savvy April 2022
    Nicolette ·
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    I say go for it. At the end of the day it dose not matter what other people think it is what ever you want. I know someone who have a small wedding like yours and couple months later had a big weeding. She even had an bridal shower.

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  • Tara
    VIP November 2016
    Tara ·
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    I love everything about this and you definitely deserve it! I completely agree.... you do you, it's your day and your life! If your friends or family don't support your dreams, they won't show. I say go all out with a vow renewal. Why not?! Love that you're doing it all!!!!

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  • Jennifer
    Just Said Yes April 2021
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    I know this is an old post but i just had to reply.. I love this. I love what you said and got a little emotional. ❤ We went to the courthouse and got marriedin 2010. We didn't have a bridal shower, registry, nothing. I want the whole 9. I wouldn't do a registry but I was wanting to wear a gown and have my dad walk me down the aisle (not give me away. Just walking me down) and have our close friends and family there to celebrate with us. But reading blogs saying things that are are part of a "traditional wedding" was an absolute no-no and like we were breaking the law of we did it. I was thinking, what's the point? Everyone would ask why we would do that and we're making ourselves look like fools or something. But seriously, after what you said, i am going to do what I want for my renewal and I will be happy. I deserve it.
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  • Yesenia
    Just Said Yes February 2012
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    A fake wedding?!! Wow... It’s her one and only wedding that she wasn’t able to have. She’s married so it’s hardly fake. A wedding is a celebration of a union between two people. No matter what that looks like. Let’s stop judging people for having the celebration in the manner that they choose or when they choose. Not everyone has the same path in life. But all brides deserve to have the wedding of their dreams.
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  • Yesenia
    Just Said Yes February 2012
    Yesenia ·
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    I disagree with this. I don’t think any of this is fair for someone who wasn’t able to have her own wedding.
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