Vow Renewal Etiquette/Wedding that never happened

You can do what ever you want. Have the wedding details you didnt get the first time around if you want them!

Just don't do a potluck, Saturday morning, 3 week notice vow renewal, ok? Lol

Thanks ladies! I was really looking forward to the wedding, but things happen. So I am going to get all those things now! And no potluck 3 week notice ceremony, promise! Lol

Ehh, I don't know if I would register or have a bridal party. Maybe an MOH. Sorry to be harsh, but I feel like if you've been married for a while, it's awkward to make the wedding such a huge production. Then again, you know your crowd and how it could be received.

ETA: Totally have your dad walk you down! Also, do the bouquet if you want-- I feel like that's a thing for future brides anyway.

I'd be thrilled to be part of a big vow renewal like that. I probably wouldn't have 10 bridesmaids../but if you have a few very close friends who would be there for you; I don't see a problem with it at all.

People have second weddings and often do the whole shebang...I don't see why you can't do a second wedding with the same spouse

I wouldn't have a wedding party or a registry. And really you shoudn't have the pre-wedding parties (especially a shower). A tasteful vow renewal is usually more low key and understated than a wedding. It's not a wedding "do over".

Do whatever is going to make you happy. in the end, you're the one that has to live with the decisions you made. go for it and have fun

It is a vow renewal. Ten years of marriage is worthy of a formal celebration. Honestly, I would skip all of the pre-wedding festivities (there is no need for a shower as you have an established home, and a bachelor/bachelorette party seems silly since neither of you fit into either category). I think it's fine to have an honor attendant for each of you, but the full blown bridal party? I'd skip that. The two of you exchanging some thoughtful words based on your history and your plans for the future as an officiant recognizes or blesses a simple renewal ceremony? Sounds great -- inspiring, even. After that, party on. If you want to wear a white gown, that's up to you. Wear white, black, gold, silver, sapphire, emerald, purple, or red -- whatever makes you feel gorgeous.

Oh yes I completely agree no showers or pre wedding festivities. But was going to have my sister, who has been by my side before we met, and best friend, who has been by my side since we got together, stand with me-and walk with our boys. I don't want a do over, just some of the special moments-mom & dad walking me down the aisle mainly. Plus they were our "witnesses" when we went to the JP.

I am renewing my vows with my guy who I've been with for 16 years, married 8.5 years and 3 children with! And I WILL be doing MY wedding like it's the first time lol. We have 5 BM/GM, parents walking, FG's, and all! We are not doing bachelor/bachelorette parties for the obvious reasons, but my bday is on the 9th (2 days before the ceremony) so we will hold our rehearsal then and go celebrate afterwards as an open invite with family and friends! Our original anniversary is July 8, but we're renewing on the 11th since it's a weekend, his birthday is the 27th so our rehearsal/celebration will be all inclusive (no gifts expected, just fun and fellowship)! ENJOY your union and celebrate it as we should - first, second or sixteenth time - doesn't matter! And CONGRATULATIONS! :-)

You can have whatever the two of you want!!! If we can do it on my second and his third wedding, you can definitely do it for a renewal!

As long as you don't register or have a shower (gift-grabby) or have bachelor/bachelorette parties (I think that would be inappropriate for obvious reasons!) go for it!

Aww I love your idea of having your sister and bff stand up with you and your sons walk with you. Definitely have your father walk you down the aisle, wear white, etc. and celebrate the milestone that 10 years of marriage is!

I think what you are wanting is wonderful

What is the proper etiquette for this ceremony?

Have the ceremony you want. Not what someone says you can have or deserve

Am I not supposed to have my dad walk me down the aisle?

If you want to have you father walk you down the aisle, bridal shower, bachelorette party, bridesmaids, father/daughter dance, tossing the bouquet, do it all and do it big.

We were married by JOP last November and are have a full ceremony.

Don't listen to all the negatives. You should do what you want. I have the same situation and I was met with negative advice. I am not doing the prewedding parties, but everything else I will do. Whether you register or not people will bring a gift. Might as well be something you need. Have at it. Don't listen to the hoity toity first weddingers.

@Kristin She asked for opinions in what is proper etiquette in the situation...we aren't hoity toity and you have absolutely no idea if we are or are not first weddingers just saying what the etiquette is. I'm sorry that you didn't get the response you wanted in your post Kristin, but really if you want hugs and kisses and to be told your special and can do no wrong because it's your special day maybe the internet isn't the place for you.

You asked for etiquette, so yes- do whatever the hell you want, obviously but I don't think that's what you're asking..

I'm no etiquette police but here is what i would "side-eye"

1. Probably any wedding shower, but definitely anything other than, like you said one of your few, super close bridesmaids hosting a lunch somewhere I wouldn't tell them "no" and may do that for one of my friends, honestly.

2. I would side-eye making your bridesmaids pay $300+ for hair, makeup, jewlery, shoes, dress if you asked me. But then again I don't know you so maybe since these are your people they wouldn't care.

3. Same thing with an elaborate bachelorette, if you want to do it with a few of your besties and make it a girls night- fine. I would side-eye posting that shit all over social media.

4. Proably flower girls/ring bearers if they aren't your children

Things I wouldn't side eye

1. White dress, dad walking you down the aisle, having a bouquet

2. Open bar

The advice that is being given is opinion as to what the proper etiquette is. Find the answer in some rule book and show me. To each his own. I made a mistake posting on a forum. I won't make that mistake again. Bye, bye, now.

Etiquette is not an "opinion" lol

@Lucy etiquette varies by region and culture, so most of the time it actually can be opinion. There is no true etiquette for the entire world.