Vow Renewal & A Gift Registry

I personally wouldn't purchase them a gift. I think it's very tacky.

I would bring a card.

I agree with @FutureMrsR. I would bring a card to the vow renewal. But I probably wouldn't purchase a gift

A nice card with a lovely message would suffice in this case. Maybe congratulating them on their many years of marriage/successes in life/etc.

Sounds like there are some etiquette issues. The first being the registry info sent with the invitations.

I don't think I'd be going unless it was a really good friend and I'd probably give them 50 dollars just so they have something. I think that just sounds like they want gifts and pretty things...

I'd probably just give a gift card for their favorite restaurant for a date night.

Someone should remind her she's not a bride, she's a wife. But aside from that, I don't have a problem with people bringing gifts (though she shouldn't have sent registry with invite). If they were having an anniversary party, you'd bring a gift, wouldn't you? Just get something off-registry that you can afford. If you choose to just a card, that's fine too. You're never required to buy a gift.

I would do a card with a nice message written in it. Asking for gifts for a vow renewal, much less having showers and bachelorette parties (wtf?! That ship has sailed!!) is so incredibly rude.

I'd bring a gift. Doesn't have to be big but a little something as a kind gesture, kind of like a hostess gift.

I wouldn't give a gift, but I'd give them a card. This whole thing sounds gift grabby and tacky.

I think a card sounds fair... maybe $50 bucks if you're feeling generous.

A card is appropriate. All that other stuff is really tacky.

I think it's all tacky.

A vow renewal 4 years later? I've got no interest in someone wanting a pretty princess day do over.

Umm I'm out on the gifting. I'm attending a vow renewal Saturday and no registry was mentioned

I would just get a nice card.

We got them a card and a bottle of wine. Lol. I think that's sufficient. Thanks y'all

I'm sorry, but I don't understand a married woman having a bachelorette party, a wedding shower, or any other wedding fluff. I just don't, and I never will. If a married couple wants a gift or two, she should host an anniversary party, but please, leave the white gown and veil in the closet because...it feels weird.

I'm sorry, I just don't get these weddings that go on forever. Do weddings really haunt people for years after the fact? If a couple were married and they want to celebrate with lots of guests, do it, but do it quickly. If you feel you were ripped off by your own decision, then have a vow renewal, but call it a vow renewal (and honestly, with the "death do us part" clause, I don't understand what's being renewed since it's already a part of covenant previously made). Whatever. People can do what they want, but what they can't do is force other people to line up with their personal beliefs.

No, OP, you don't owe this couple a gift. If you want to attend whatever they're planning, that's up to you. Honestly, I'd decline.