Virgin wedding night. Tips?

Don't set high expectations of romance and whimsical grandeur. Chances are, it'll be quick and awkward as all first times can be. Make sure to lubricate, especially if you're not an overly moist person. That will help you because the more lubrication you have, the less friction you have, so the initial penetrating movement will be easier then trying to jam it in when it's drier. Don't pressure yourself to come or else you have no chance. Chances are you won't the first time. There's nothing wrong with either of you if you don't.

Relax. Its going to be awkward. Coconut oil is your friend. Also maybe porn. But not crazy porn because you'll probably break something and that's never good

Take your time. Don't jump right into it. Enjoy yourselves, and like others said, lube. If you're nervous just spend time kissing and letting it progress naturally.

It'll be awkward. That's ok. Have fun, lots of foreplay, relax. Lube if you need it. It shouldn't hurt. If it does, take more time to loosen up.

It might not even happen that night. So don't be too disappointed if it doesn't.

I'd wait til the night (or morning ) after the wedding.

Don't force it. And no, I don't mean if it's too dry. I mean if it doesn't feel like it's happening naturally, take a break. Just hang out and laugh together, watch a movie, whatever. If you both feel pressured to have sex on the wedding night, it's going to make it even more awkward and less enjoyable than the first time already is. The less you think about it, the better it will be.

Don't forget to pee afterwards! It'll help prevent a UTI.

I don't want to get graphic with this, but if neither of you have been sexually active at all, start with just touching. Don't feel pressured to go the fully Monty immediately just because it's your wedding night. Touching can help you learn each others bodies before you really *learn* each others bodies.

When it does come time for sex, what helped me my first time was to be on top. That way I was in full control of the situation and could decide how far or fast to go. My boyfriend at the time knew I was a virgin (he wasn't) and wanted to make me as comfortable as possible, so this worked for both of us. It might be a good idea for you (not to mention, what guy doesn't love cowgirl position?).

ETA: And yeah - what Mrs. Faith said! You have about a five to ten minute post-sex cuddle period where you're safe, but do use the restroom afterwards.

Nicole mentioned that you probably won't come, but don't be alarmed if he doesn't either. It's common for guys not to come the first time they have sex.

Hey, I was a virgin bride too.

First off—everything is going to be totally ok so don't psyche yourself out

Agree with PPs; don't set expectations of a romance scene from a movie. I would have to respectfully disagree with those who say it will necessarily be awkward, though (not saying that anyone on this thread has). Just be yourself, focus on how much you love him, and don't force anything. It can be SO beautiful and full of joy and love if you let things flow naturally and just be yourselves.

Practically speaking, YES, use lube for the first time at least and be sure it's water based.

If you have a moment to pee after, do so. Also don't be afraid of blood, if ya know what I mean

I was super paranoid and worried about UTIs and whatnot. Do pee afterward if you get a chance. I've had no problems so far.

Good luck girlfriend. If this is something you've chosen to uphold and it matters to you, it's going to be so, so worth it

This makes me feel better too , me and my FH are virgins too, so I'm glad to hear it won't be traumatizing or painful. Him and I and very comfortable with each other and very honest and good at communication so I think if either of us aren't ok or comfortable with somthing we will have no problem saying it

Just remember that you love him and he loves you, that should take 95% of the awkwardness away. Lube will help immensely and since it's his first time as well don't be surprised if it doesn't last as long as you thought it would. This isn't a race, it's a display of great love and respect for eachother. As for the pain, the lube will really help and for me personally, it didn't last long. You will be sore the next day, but a warm bath will help. Just relax, breathe, and let your love for eachother lead the way.

Just look at it this way ...all non-virgins were virgins at some point and we all really love to have sex so the first time is just the beginning of the greatness.

Also probably worth noting - it might hurt and you might bleed -- but also?

Dont be alarmed if it doesnt, or there is no blood. Not all women have super strong, intact hymens - some are very thin, flexible, and almost nonexistent even as virgins. Its totally normal for it to go either way.

...don't watch porn. Let it be about you guys.

For play , warm lubricate and relax ! I take time to get good at it . Trust you will be fine

Lube and pee after sex!

Saving this...glad I'm not the only virgin bride here.

Like most people stated already, lube and foreplay are a huge help when it comes to the first time having sex. Communication is also a huge thing as well.

Sorry if this is more inappropriate or not, but start by touching each other sexually (and maybe even touch yourself, learn what you like and dislike). That way during the foreplay, you'll already know if you like it. Although it's not considered sexy, it definitely helps to reaffirm with your partner that they are doing a good job.

If you are worried about bleeding, there's no shame in laying down a towel just in case.

In a survey I read from Brides magazine, more couples didn't have sex their wedding night due to tiredness from the day. However, that's up to you and your FH. There's all this pressure the first time to be romantic or be too awkward. As long are you feel comfortable and aren't comparing yourself to the movies, then you'll be okay.

ETA: if you use lube, try not to use the specialty ones the first time. I used KY hot and cold lubes before and the cold one completely turned me off, and the hot one being too hot for me to handle.