Venue Site Fee - What Is Typical?

This is so variable based on where you are. We are in New Hampshire and the venues we looked at all had a venue fee that was completely separate from the cost of food/cost per head. Venue fees at the places we looked at varied from $2000 (for literally just the land with no chairs, tables, tent, or other rentals) to $12,000 which typically included chairs, tables, and a covered reception area.

The venue we selected is very similar to what you described except they also do their own organic, farm-to-table catering as well (with an award winning chef), and we get the site for pretty much the whole weekend, including an on-site AirBnB that sleeps six. On our itemized estimate the site rental is $8,000 (includes AirBnB house, tables, barn, and some chairs, but we have to rent additional chairs for the outdoor ceremony site) and the cost for food and service per person is around $94 (for hors d'oeuvres, salad, meal, dessert, and light refreshments), not including alcohol, coffee, or bartending service. Add in those necessary extras, and the cost per head ends up being close to $265-$280 for a 60 person wedding and decreases a bit as we add guests (up to 120) because of economy of scale (we are renting the facility for $8,000 regardless whether we fill it to capacity or fill it with half the amount of people). Even though the cost is way more than we wanted to spend, it actually ended up being the best value when we factored in the quality of what we were getting, the included extras, and the piece of mind of using such a highly recommended and professional vendor.

Weddings are ridiculously expensive. This may give you a better idea of what you can actually expect it to cost per guest: https://www.valuepenguin.com/average-cost-of-wedding

Aw dang it! Good thinking that you already asked. I hope it all works out for you!

There are so many factors (location, time of year, day of week). We ended up scoping out a venue that allowed us to bring in our own vendors. It's a barn type setting and cost us $5250. Holds up to 300 and has tables, chairs, bridal suite, kitchen, some decor, and lawn games. The only two conditions are that you use a bartending service that lists them under their insurance policy (choice of 3) and you must hire their security at $100/ hour. Everything else is free reign. If you search enough, you can find a venue that's a bit more reasonable than $100-$110/person imo.

I grew up in Northern New Jersey. NOTHING is cheap there. A venue fee of $6,000 for what you are describing sounds pretty reasonable for that area of the country, but you'd really need to shop around and compare to be sure.