Venue Cancelled All 2020 Weddings

I also didn't want to wait another year, so even though my original date of 4/9/20 was rescheduled for end of July, we went ahead and got married on that day at our officiant's church (we had our marriage license and didn't want it to expire) we live in NYC and everything is closed, and who knows what can happen tomorrow! We're still planning on our big wedding in July 🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼. Honestly, I would advise to go ahead and get married and then decide if you want to cancel venues and use that money or continue and have your celebration next year! Best of luck! ❤

I totally understand how you feel and I’m right there with you. My wedding was originally for July 25th 2020, my venue also cancelled all wedding for this year. Me and the FH thought about setting a new date for 2021 then decided we would not. We’ve set a date for a small private ceremony on November 7th of 2020 and we’ll leave it at that. We’ll buy a home next year and do a big vow renewal and reception the way I had planned maybe on our 5 year anniversary or something. There is just too much uncertainty and I’m already stressed out enough over not being able to get the planning finished and not being able to have it the way I really wanted that it was no longer something we were looking forward to, it was draining. At this point I don’t even care about the big shabang, I just want to be married to my babe and start the new chapters of our lives. It’s a hard decision to make and I’m sure in the end you and the FH will decide to do what’s best and what works for y’all. I’m praying for you. Best wishes to you.

Yes. This happened to my fiancé and I due to covid-19 so we decided to throw a party in our backyard instead. We didn’t want to spend even more money after losing some deposits and have the wedding potentially be moved again then do this all over in 4 months. It’s really draining.

Our date is 10-18-20 and we’re going to decide over the next month whether we need to cancel/postpone. I am struggling with the idea of not having our dream wedding but realize we might not have a choice. We decided we would postpone to October 2021 if we have to, but even that feels uncertain too. We wanted to go on a honeymoon to the Galapagos in January but not likely to happen either.

So heartbroken for you, the shock of it couldn’t have helped. I’m worried it’ll happen in NY too (Albany). Did they give you any $ back from any of your deposits?

I'm sure you're not alone in those thoughts and feelings. Give yourself time to grieve. It's a loss and you're allowed to feel whatever emotions are flooding you right now. ❤❤❤ you will be ok and you will end up doing what is right for you and your FH.

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I am so sorry this is happening to you too! We just asked all of our vendors and I think they were all really understanding of the current climate, but I know not everyone is. I am definitely thinking of you as you make this tough decision to postpone to next year, I know it will be magical!

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Thank you so much for those comforting words. It is so nice to be reminded of what is important and I do truly believe that although our day will look wildly different, it will still be incredibly beautiful and special, and also just be a moment for many other moments in our marriage. Thank you for this amazing reminder

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So glad you went ahead and got married this month! Congrats!! I think that is great advice, we will definitely do the small ceremony and then decide from there! Fingers crossed for July!!

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Completely agree, I am so, so drained and not sure I can feel this way for another year. Congratulations to you. I am actually getting excited for our backyard wedding in July!

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It was definitely a shock and caused lots of emotions all afternoon/evening on Sunday! Luckily, I am able to get deposits back from all of our vendors (some we will use at the small ceremony), except for one, and they are giving us a credit to use whenever in the future, which is really awesome.

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Thank you for this beautiful reminder

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Right there with you on this experience being so draining that it takes away from the joy of it all. We are definitely doing the small ceremony in July and maybe one day we will do a vow renewal. I know your day in November will be beautiful . Thanks for reminding me that I am not alone!

View Quoted Comment Have a wonderful day however you choose and mostly, enjoy your marriage.

I am with you 100%! We are scheduled to be married 8/22/20. A lot of friends and family have said the same thing, to get married and do the reception next year. However, I would rather not. If we can’t have what we planned, I would rather put the money towards buying a house. I know it’s really hard. I am also heartbroken that things are not going the way we planned. I think pushing the reception back a year just takes away the moment ya know? It’s not the same. I would personally rather get married, scratch the reception, and move on with my marriage.

I really relate. My wedding is (was?) scheduled for September and while we haven’t made any decisions yet it seems pretty unlikely that it will be possible. We’re not interested in having a “corona wedding” with guests wearing masks. Talk about dreams shattered. We’re getting all kinds of advice about doing the ceremony and having the party later, but those two parts of the wedding are so deeply connected in my mind and I can’t imagine separating them. Which, like you, makes me want to just have a very small wedding and move on with our lives (we really want to have a baby soon) It feels so heartbreaking giving up on this dream but it also feels impossible to know when things will be better and exhausting to imagine planning a postponement and then having to cancel that too. All I can say is you’re not alone and my heart aches with you.

View Quoted Comment Absolutely agree💔💔💔

If you want the “wedding of your dreams” then it sounds like it’s best for you to wait and have that, instead of something smaller right not. It seems like the smaller alternative isn’t as satisfying for you.


Best wishes and remember that regardless of whether it’s a big or small wedding, what really matters is that you have the “marriage of your dreams”.

View Quoted Comment I needed to hear this ❤️

I’m in Massachusetts as well. I can’t believe they did all 2020 weddings... even the fall ? I’m nervous my venue will do the same.


But girl I would still have the wedding of your dreams. You want a party you go ahead and throw it. 2021 eveyone will be ready. But I would still get married. I’ve been looking at this as I will get to wear two dresses, two opportunities if we have to postpone