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Savvy July 2020

Venue Cancelled All 2020 Weddings

Ivy, on April 27, 2020 at 6:58 PM Posted in Community Conversations 3 45
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Hi everyone. I found out yesterday that our wedding venue has cancelled all 2020 weddings and my fiance and I were heartbroken. We had already talked extensively about plan B (a small ceremony at my parent's house), but it was still so heartbreaking to be told our dreams weren't going to happen, rather than deciding that for ourselves. We had originally talked about doing a larger party next year to celebrate and renew vows, but now I am just so emotionally drained that a big part of me just wants to do the small ceremony and not re-schedule the wedding, and use the money we have saved for a house. Luckily all of our vendors will be able to give us our money back or give us a credit.


I struggle with this because I want the wedding of my dreams, but a part of me already feels like those dreams have been taken away, and I'm not sure I can have these same feelings of fear and uncertainty for another year.


Anyone feeling the same way?

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Latest activity by Ivy, on May 3, 2020 at 10:36 PM
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    Beginner August 2020
    Alex ·
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    So sorry to hear that. What state are you in?


    Time will make things better and you will still have an amazing ceremony. Then let some time pass and decide whether you want to have the big party. Maybe after the ceremony you will feel totally fulfilled and can use that money on some other wonderful things
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  • Ivy
    Savvy July 2020
    Ivy ·
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    I'm in Massachusetts!


    That's very true. We could wait and make a decision after July! I am holding onto hope that even though the day will look different, it will still be amazing. Thank you for that advice!
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    Dedicated June 2020
    Kelsey ·
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    Yes, absolutely. Our wedding was postponed to August (are still doing a small ceremony on our original date in June). A lot of the excitement is gone and feel like I just want to get it over with, which is depressing. If August doesn't work, I don't really know if we will postpone until next year. There is still so much uncertainty with the virus, and I don't want to go through all of this again next year. Part of me wishes we could get all our money back from our vendors and cancel, but we have paid too much now to do that (most, if not all are nonrefundable).

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  • Shana
    Dedicated October 2020
    Shana ·
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    I feel exactly the same way, if I’m not able to have my wedding I envisioned we will just have a small ceremony hopefully with family and bridal party on our wedding date. I wouldn’t want to postpone, I’ve been engaged for over a year and a half I’ve gotten the engaged experience I’m definately ready to just be married. Postponing a year out you really couldn’t even know for sure if things would be “normal” at that point, there could still be measures in place for the foreseeable future until the virus is more under control. Pandemics like this in the past have lasted 1 1/2 to 2 years so who knows what it may be like in a years time even. Of course it’s devastating but it’s affecting so many of us I’ve kind of just come to terms that whatever the world is like on that day all that matters is I get to be married to my bestfriend.
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    Savvy August 2021
    Sarah ·
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    I'm so sorry that this happened to you! My fiancé and I received the same news from our venue last week, and I was totally crushed as well (we also live in Massachusetts!). Even though we had also already talked extensively about a Plan B, we felt so sad and disappointed when we found out our venue was cancelling all 2020 weddings, especially since the decision was completely out of our hands. We are still processing and trying to figure out whether to postpone to 2021 or just have a small backyard ceremony on our original August 2020 date. Just wanted to let you know that you're not alone. I'm so sorry you're going through the same emotions that I am going through right now!

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  • Ivy
    Savvy July 2020
    Ivy ·
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    I completely hear ya! A lot of the excitement is definitely gone and the strain of the unknowns is so draining. I really hope August works out for you, it's so tough when vendors won't refund your payments. I totally get that they need to be paid but it's also incredibly hard for us as well. Sending you positive vibes for August ❤
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  • Ivy
    Savvy July 2020
    Ivy ·
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    I agree, who really knows when this will be over? Can I deal with the unknowns for another year? Probably not! I keep reminding myself that it's more than the wedding, it is about marrying my best friend and so I am holding onto hope that it will still be amazing. So I think your perspective is so right and helpful ❤ wishing you all the best!
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  • Ivy
    Savvy July 2020
    Ivy ·
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    Oh no!! Where was your venue?


    I'm so sorry this happened to you as well! Thank you so much for this, it's so helpful to know I am not alone going through these same feelings!! I'm sure your backyard wedding in August will be beautiful!
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    Savvy June 2021
    Braya ·
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    We are in the same boat. We moved our wedding out a year and plan to elope this year on the original date. Either something private or something in my in laws backyard, still debating
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    Beginner August 2020
    Eunice ·
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    Hello Ivy, I am sorry you are going through that.
    I have also Felt like my dreams have been taken away
    But I personally don’t want to postpone until next year.The reason is because everything is so unknown for next year. It’s not guaranteed that this virus will completely disappear next year.My moto is that life is short and we shouldn’t lose time.You have your beloved fiancé, friends and family that care for you; they’re with you right now and you have the opportunity to celebrate with them now. Even if it’s a small wedding but the important thing is that they’ll be there for you and your future spouse.

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  • Ivy
    Savvy July 2020
    Ivy ·
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    Hi Eunice,


    Thanks so much for that. I agree completely, life is short and my mom has cancer (which adds another layer to the uncertainty) but we want to make sure she is part of the day, even if she is social distancing and being extra careful. Who knows if we wait what might happen, so I know we want to marry this year 100%!
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  • Katharine
    Expert July 2021
    Katharine ·
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    Ouch. That's terrible for all involved. I'm sorry. I'm glad your vendors are being flexible and refunding you! That's incredibly lucky and not common right now.

    I think we'll be deciding next week on postponing ours (happening in OR, we live in WA). Reading up on the western states pact, and the state of cases in WA/OR, I just don't see the gathering size restrictions being lifted enough to allow our group to gather by July 18. We've been maintaining hope until now, but I think we may have to pull the trigger on just postponing the formal ceremony and party until next year. :-( I would love to get our money back and just save it for something else, but I don't think that is likely for us so postponing far enough out to keep all our vendors would be our only option.

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  • Autumn
    Devoted July 2020
    Autumn ·
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    I think you should go ahead with the smaller wedding and planning that and I'm sure as long as you and FH get married it will turn out to be your dream wedding 🥰
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  • Kendall
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    Kendall ·
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    So sorry to hear this but yes the smaller ceremony can still be great and make sure you still get pictures
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    Dedicated October 2020
    Kendall ·
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    Totally agree with this we feel the same way we will still get married this year no matter what
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  • Kendall
    Dedicated October 2020
    Kendall ·
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    Wow that’s so crazy that they are canceling for the remainder of the entire year
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    April 2020
    Krissa ·
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    Hi Ivy,
    I’m on here to help my newly engaged daughter plan her 2021 wedding. I just wanted to give some “motherly” advice. I have been married for almost thirty years and want all brides, especially all of you dealing with disappointments around your wedding day, to know that when I reflect on the special, most pivotal days of our marriage...none of them are from our wedding day. It is a wonderful party, a fun day to celebrate your love and the joining of families. But, it is just that, a party and not the most important part of your marriage. My advice would be to have a cozy, lovely day in your backyard and move ahead into life and start making the memories that make your marriage. I’m so sorry this is happening to so many of you. No matter how you spend your day, you will all be beautiful and will have a great time celebrating. Best wishes.
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  • Lindsey
    Beginner July 2020
    Lindsey ·
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    Thank you so much for this. This was needed. I’ve gotten totally back and forth on what to do, but have turned a corner and am starting to get excited for a small intimate ceremony on my friends farm. I’m luck to know someone with such a beautiful property! Most of all I’m just excited for our lives together. All of this, even though it’s been heartbreaking, has really put things in perspective.
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    Krissa ·
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    Good luck!
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    WeddingWire Administrator October 2016
    Lynnie ·
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    I'm so sorry Ivy!! There are no "correct" decisions right now, you just have to do what feels most comfortable for you! Sending you lots of virtual hugs! Smiley heart


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