Vent!!!

I’m sorry I just need to ugh! Vent! FH is completely confused and has no idea why I feel this way. So one of my bridesmaid called today and we had a nice chat she then asked if she can bring a plus one I said of course! To give you guys a little back story she has been on and off with her boyfriend I guess now ex boyfriend and I thought she was originally talking about him since a few months ago she told me she might bring him to the wedding then I said but we are asking people who are bringing a plus one to have them be a significant other (the reason we say this is we don’t want people bringing friends) she then started arguing that she isn’t in a relationship with him because she doesn’t want her family to be involved and know things but she needs him to come. I do want to note that this bridesmaid is my cousin so a bunch of family is going to be there and if he goes they will definitely know something is going on. After a while she threatened to not come to my wedding because I refused to let her have a plus one. 1 i never said no I just asked that they were in some kind of relationship for her to bring him along and 2 my wedding is in less than 40 days!! I already have enough stress on my plate I don’t need this too!. She then brought up her dog that she doesn’t have a sitter for it and that might be another reason why she won’t come. She has none about the wedding lonGer than she has had that dog At this point she was just looking for excuses to not come. I told her about the rover app that I have personally used for my 2 dogs and her response was nope don’t trust people. I tried to play it cool I said ok to let me know if she can make it or not and I reminded her the deadline to RSVP was tomorrow and if she can message her older sister (another cousin) to remind her about the deadline and her response was I’m probably not going to do that! So I told her not to worry about it I’ll take care of it. You hear stories like this from other brides and I never thought I would have a problem with any of my bridesmaids but I’m so sad that she is treating me this way and threatening not to come. Part of me wants to say screw it don’t come! FH keeps saying just tell her she can bring the guy but I never said no and I don’t want her to feel like she can get her way by threatening like that.