Vent: just don't care anymore...

Take a break. Hide all the wedding crap for a week. Hang out with FH. Make plans to have lunch with a friend one day. No wedding talk. After a week, sit down with FH, a notebook and pen, and make a list of priorities. There are places that do "Elopement packages." Look those up. Do what's in your heart, and have fun.

I had something similar happen, I ended up canceling everything and starting from scratch. Take a break, see what is stressing you and take that out of the equation.

I'm really sorry you are experiencing this. It's definitely no fun! I went through similar feelings. We had a bunch of family drama, stressful life situations and health challenges. FH felt it might be best to postpone the wedding but it would be a huge inconvenience to guest who already have reservations etc. I was feeling un excited about the wedding and burnt out. My best advice (what helped me get through it) take a total break from wedding stuff and focus on your FH and self care (pamper yourself!), you have time to back off on planning without being to pressed as long as you have the big details in line. Don't worry or stress and remind yourself why you are getting married... it should be to marry the love of your life good luck to you, take it easy!

I get that way every once in awhile. Just take a break, do something fun, and then come back to it

Maybe you just need to take a step back! You still have 10 months. Deep breaths! It will all be worth it!

I did and let it rest for a week or 2. After that back in the game and hadn't felt that way since...

You still have so long to go, when my wedding was a lot further off I spent almost no time on it for weeks on end. Take a break! Scale back and relax.

For me, realizing what WE wanted and scaling back to that changed so much for me. We didn't want dancing, a DJ etc. So we switched to a more appropriate venue and cut it. Cutting the costs of that revived me in many ways.

I literally did not care at all about flowers until like 3 months out... people were shocked that when they asked about flowers I said "I really don't care" but that was the truth. Now I can't stop looking at pics of my bouquet 5 weeks out. It all comes in strides.

Take a break and think about what you really want. then come back refreshed.

Hi,I don't know the situation you have with your dad,but like one of the other ladies said..sit down and talk respectfully with your grandmother..and let her know your decision is final..this is how it is going to be...you don't want to discuss it no further...and let that be the end.we all deserve respect don't matter rather you young or old.She needs to respect your decision and leave it at where you want it.Good luck with everything.

I definitely felt this way (for different reasons). It stopped becoming fun for me because I was so concerned my guests would enjoy themselves and they were so opinionated. It was bad right after we got engaged and then four months before for me. Now one month away, and its not as bad but I'm not jumping for joy like most brides over their wedding day. Personally I don't think postponing will help

I'm so sorry you feel this way. How would your FH feel about something like a courthouse ceremony?

I had the same feelings but FH didn't want a long engagement. Honestly he proposed August of last year and I didn't start planning until February (which is also when I told my family). All the input yet lack of support and help pushed me to rush the wedding to November of this year. I just wanted to get it over with. Just plan your wedding by yourself but keep it small. I purposely picked a room that could only hold 88 people just so I'd have a built in excuse for not inviting a bunch of my father's family. I also opted for a semi destination wedding so that my mom's friends wouldn't be able to attend (she wanted to invite all these people yet isn't helping pay). Find a workaround and sometimes, all the negativity will get to you but remember that you'll be marrying the man you love.

You could just elope!

Me about the wedding. It's normal.

My first recommendation is not to postpone, because that may just drag out the stress, pain, and drama even longer.

Second, I would recommend taking a wedding planning mini vaction. My FH and I took a long weekend beach trip, we did nothing wedding related. It gave both of us a chance to feel like normal human beings again and to not be stressed about the wedding. Afterwords we felt completely refreshed.

Lastly, I would recommend having an honest conversation with your FH about what the two of you want for your wedding. Don't worry about what family or friends will think or will expect, just talk about what you want. If you decide the wedding you are currently planning isn't what you want then you can have a conversation if you'd rather just elope or have a immediate family and friends wedding in a friends backyard or something. Do what is helpful for you!

I've been there.

Taking a break from wedding planning is what got me excited again!

Yes...I felt that way through most of my planning. My mother in law took over my guest list and from that point on it was just ever growing frustration. I wanted a small wedding and she blew the whole thing up and then I was completely overwhelmed and suddenly felt like it was not my wedding. Every time I had to do something for my wedding I was sick to my stomach.

And it's like all anyone wants to talk about to you and you start to feel like you lose your identity as a person. I tried making "Not talking about the wedding weekends" to try and do something else and remember I'm not just a bride. It was hard to enforce but I did get a few days where I could just be left alone...I had to turn off social media though...but it was worth it. It's OK to feel the way you do though...I think we have all been there at one point or another. Postponing it is just going to make you feel this way again. Allow yourself to feel the way you feel, take a month or so off from it like some people suggested...you have a ton of time.

My friend did a really small wedding - somewhat like an elopement. There were 7 people there (including the officiant and the couple) and it was exactly what she wanted. She wore a gown and a bouquet, we got our nails done before and had a brunch/reception afterwards. Would this be an option for you?