Vent: is it possible to uninvite a groomsmen

No. and that isn't a very good reason. i was a bm in my best male friends wedding, his wife is awesome, but was not a bm in my wedding, i had my 3 oldest friends, we are newer friends. i was also not a bm in one of my best friends weddings because she just had her fh 3 little sisters. it's all good. i was just happy to be part of their day and I'm sure they felt the same.

Just because you are in someones wedding, it does not obligate you to have them in yours. Nice yes but required no. Besides guys don't give a crap about that stuff.

Yeah, I think the only advice re: how not to feel mad is pretty obvious. . .

Get over it!!!!

Yes, my better self knows that it shouldn't be done and I also know that it shouldn't matter. But I just can't figure out why it is making me so mad. Is it usual to be so resentful about things like this? Can't figure it out.

It's weird, get over it

Maybe you feel like your FH appreciates his friend more than his friend appreciates him? I don't know, but there's nothing you can actually do about how you're feeling except make a conscious decision to stop caring about this particular issue. . .

I've been a BM in 8 weddings. I had 0 BMs in my wedding. Nobody got upset about it. You'll be busy planning and paying for your own wedding. Be glad you're being spared the expense of having FH in another wedding (suit/tux, bachelor party, hotel, food/travel).

I don't think it matters if you have an odd number. It really isn't your choice who your FH chooses as his groomsman... they are there to stand up for him. I don't think him not being asked to be in their wedding is a reason to be mad either. Sorry, I just don't understand why you are upset.

Let me know if im missing something..Groomsmen duties are getting the tux and showing up to the rehearsal/wedding and if he wants to attend bachelor party..am i missing what else the guys do? no offense.

I think you should just do what you already know you should and let it go. Its not really your place to tell him who he should have standing with him, just like I'm sure you wouldn't want him to tell you who to choose. I get not liking someone for no good reason, but you can't project that onto your fiancee. Think about it like this, you don't have to do too much interacting with him in the grand scheme so focus on your wedding and not on this one person who has no bearing on the rest of your life.

ETA: You can't be mad about something that hasn't happened yet. You don't know for sure that he won't ask him to be a GM, you don't know if he'll even have a bridal party, hell you don't know that they'll even make it to the altar. Just relax!

No, you can't. It seems to bother you because you don't like him and don't want him in your wedding. This seems your excuse. But you have to let it go. Each of us may have or come to have friends our SO may not like. Unless this person is doing things that negatively impact your FH or your relationship with your FH you have to learn to deal with it. Your FH thought on it and made his decision. This groomsman at some point will have to put thought into it and make his. His family, her family, close friends, there are only so many positions and unfortunately your FH may not make the cut. And that's fine.

This is your fiancé's friend and groomsman. It has nothing to do with you. No you cannot uninvite him. How would you like it if your fiancé wanted to kick out one of your bridesmaids? Get over it.

BMs or GMs do not have a list of duties for starters. Get over that and i feel like your anger will disappear real quick.

It's not your decision. This is your FH's friend and it's not your place to decide who gets to stay and who has to go, especially for such a dumb reason.