Vent about rsvp

If your mom is so concerned she can spend and waste that money on maybes. Sorry weddings are not maybes. It's yes or no and I completely agree with you. Family or not, get your crap together! It's as if people have never been to a singular wedding in their life and the chances of that being true for older family members is slim to zero!

UGH. How rude. I would probably send them a note to let them know. "Hi (name). Our final head count was due. We put "No" for you & (name) because I didn't hear back from you. Hopefully, we'll see you guys after the wedding sometime. Hope all is well!"

Agree! It also looks weird when there are "No show" place settings at a table. One of your guests sits next to an empty seat. It's sad.

Maybe I was mean, but "no" on the RSVP card was a "no." I had guests do the same. I told them that I was very sorry, but we had already planned on our headcount and cannot change it. Most were understanding. The was one of the things I had a strong backbone about... if you let one say "count me just in case" then you have to do it for them all... before you know it, you could have an extra 20 people showing up! Or you could have 20 less people show up and you had planned and paid for their attendance.