VENDORS PLEASE. What is Your definition of a bridezilla

1. People (and it doesn't have to be a bride) who think that I can read their mind. If things change, tell me now. Not the day of, when the truck is already at the venue and I'm half-way set up.

2. People who think that I ask for things just because I feel like it. If I ask you for a floor plan, there's a reason I want it. If you can't provide it, at least let me know that you don't have one. But don't ignore my request.

3. People who expect everything, don't want to pay for it, and think that they are the only one in the world facing any difficulties.

I consider a bride a Bridezilla when she treats other like crap, including her fiance, and has no regard for their feelings. It's "HER" wedding, and EVERYTHING will be HER way, and she doesn't care what her fiance wants or thinks, he just is going to have to deal with it. When a bride thinks she is above everybody just because she's the bride, and others are just dirt around her feet. That being said, it's been RARE that I've considered a bride a bridezilla. Most brides just want their day to be perfect. They been dremaing about this day since they were 5! That's not being a bridezilla. It's how they treat others in the process.

Lucky for me... I've never had one!!! Every bride I have ever worked with has been very nice. We're very careful in choosing our clients.

I would guess a bridezilla would be someone who is overly selfish and self absorbed, who doesn't appreciate the work/opinion/value of others.

While I am not a vendor, I will weigh in. A bridezilla is someone who does not seem to care about anyone but herself.

Treat all vendors well....even if you choose not to go with their services....you never know who you will be in contact with in the future. Heck, I was in one business for several years. Left that and went to a totally different line of work. My new "boss" ended up being the daughter of someone I knew in my old line of work. Had I been mean to the Mom, the daughter would have treated me like dog turds.

Treat people the way you hope to be treated. :-)

I've encountered 1. When I arrived at the house to pickup the bride and her mother, the car was parked at the curb, about 70 feet from the front door. The door was closed but from the street I could hear her screaming inside. She was mad about something with her dress. She was throwing such a fit her brother, one of the groomsmen came running out of the house saying I don't need to put up with this. Before she came out to get in the limo 4 people had left the house and took cars to the church to get way from her.

When the time came for the bride and mother to go to the church, the bride was still throwing such a fit the mother rode in the front with me so she could distance herself from it. When she finally wore out that fit she, exploded over what she saw as her friends trying to hurt her. Her friends, a quartet was singing before the wedding to provide background music as people were coming in and being seated. The bride had picked out all the songs, and their order.

Apparently they sang one of the songs out of order. As it was background and no one knew the order except the bride and singers no one knew any difference until she came out of her dressing room and screamed at them in front of everyone for ruining her perfect day. Ladies you do a lot of planning and you want everything to go right, but realize that even with the best planning and intentions, sometimes things can go wrong, laugh off the small stuff and go on. Someday that small flub could be one of your fond and humorous memories. You don't want your guests to remember that day as a day with the Bridezilla from **LL. In 20 years that one bride still stands out as the worst I've ever encountered. All the others (maybe 2 or 3 ) pale by comparison so much I don't even remember them.

Someone who treats vendors, family, and friends involved like theyre there for her because she said so, and they need to bow to her every whim. when something goes wrong, she freaks out, when something goes right, she freaks out that it wasnt better. CRAZINESS! lol

Someone you cannot please, selfish and self centered never had a brizella...........

The "-zilla" is the one who has no regard for others in anything. The one who goes into meltdown-chew out mode in front of everyone. I've seen a couple meltdowns, and they all had to do with someone doing something (in these cases the bride) didn't like. Do you really want your meltdown to be what your guests remember about your day?

The thing is that most bridezillas are already naturally drama queens in life and are used to getting their way to a certain extent. Any poor character trait is usually amplified in a wedding situation. I.E. my sister who is so laid back she assumes things will get done. For her wedding there were 30 people running around like crazy trying to get it all done the day before, thankfully she lived in So Cal so there where plenty of rental places and such who still had availability. Somehow she assumed it would come together with no need to follow through.

We pre-screen our brides. We are happy to say no to a potential bride if she seems to already be asking to bend the rules in what we provide and she hasn't even signed a contract yet. I can see that in the end I won't be able to fulfill her wishes and she just needs to find someone who will so that she is happy with the final product.

Someone who doesn't post on weddingwire :=).

To me it would be a bride who has a great sense of entitlement. That they should get whatever they want at the expense of others.

I was called a Bridezilla because I said I did not want kids at my wedding.

I've never had a bridezilla:-) but I love to watch the show.

Well, Jamie, I guess I'm a bridezilla too then... : )

We luckily have never had one but we have had clients with unrealistic expectations. In photography there are many tricks to make someone who normally is not photogenic look realitively lovely in the images BUT the camera and Photoshop are not magic wands to make someone look gorgeous who feels they are not. We can take some pounds off but not 50 (and still look like you) we can add lighting but you will eventually get to a point of being washed out. I have heard of brides who didnt like the album they were given no matter what adjustments were made. I assume thats a Bridezilla. However, I think most vendors either do or should have a higher level of patience with Brides because we understand the stress and chaos involved in wedding planning.