Vegetarian wedding ? help!

@2ndTime said it perfectly.

There is no right or wrong answer... because you aren't asking the right question. The question is, "DO I WANT TO PROPERLY HOST MY GUEST, OR NOT????"

if the answer is no, then fine. Have the vegetarian wedding, throw in a cash bar and honey fund!

If the answer is yes, then properly host your guest with dinner (that includes meat!), drinks, music, and a good time !

As I believe it has been said a few times here, check with your guests, OP, to see if anyone has any dietary restrictions. For example, I am a Type 1 Diabetic. By eating some of the vegetarian options, that would not be enough to cover an insulin dosage, I would need some meat to help satisfy that. Personally, if I didn't know the menu before hand and arrived seeing there was either something that was too high in carbs (I'm on a 60 carb per meal diet), i.e. potatoes, pasta, etc. (this stuff is generally more difficult to bolus and, I believe mna mentioned this too, could cause out of control blood sugars later (which is bad). So for me, by having meat, that would help balance all of that out with the protein.

So by checking with your guests about restrictions, that will help you better plan the meal and help them plan to eat your meal.

Wait, so your FH eats meat? That kind of throws your morality reasoning out the window. If your FH eats meat, I assume that some of your finances go towards purchasing meat for him. If you can buy meat for you FH, than you can buy it for you guests. Your argument now just seems like most people dont cater to your dietary requests, so for your wedding you wont to cater to theirs. You even kind of touched of this in your previous comment: "I also want for once to be able to eat whatever I want since u am constantly so limited." That reasoning is just petty and rude. Sorry, but Im now on team have a meat option.

"If my partner wants meat or eggs or dairy, he can certainly buy and prepare those for himself. "

You don't share finances?

No. We do not live together.

I don't mind eating vegetarian food at all. All I want is good food. It doesn't have to be a specific type of food. I definitely don't feel the need to eat meat at every meal.

However, your FH eats meat? What are you going to do when you're living with him? You're going to spend money on meat then.

I definitely think it's knowing your guests. We have the full range from strict vegans to my sister who only eats chicken and potatoes. So we are offering a variety of options (veggie and meat Mac and cheeses, sliders, salad, veggie quinoa bowls)

If your guests know you and know you are veggie because of your beliefs, I don't think they would be upset by not having a meat based meal. Again just make sure the general crowd is accommodated.

Yeah if I knew your husband was eating meat and enjoyed it, I'd just assume you wanted to shove your beliefs down my throat (literally). I would totally understand if you were BOTH vegetarian, but he's a meat eater. He's fine with it. Give us the choice too!

ETA:words

I'm not sure how we got into my finances, since I am not the OP, but I assure you I will never, ever be buying meat, eggs, or dairy. I think maybe Elizabeth's quote confused folks.

Nope - it's the fact that you are ok with your FH buying meat, eggs, dairy, etc. The logical question is how you justify him purchasing these items after you are married, living together and sharing financial responsibility,.

If your family is telling you it's rude and your fiance eats meat?

You should have some.

But I too wonder how you'll reconcile this after you get married....will he have to have his own refrigerator out in the backyard? Are you only going to cook him veggie meals? Is he okay with that? As a meat eater, I wouldn't necessarily want to feel like a dietary outcast in my own house.

@AlwaysMs one assumes that once you're married, you will live together and share finances, so part of your money will go to purchasing meat. So why the objection in purchasing it for others at an event in which you are hosting FOR them?

ETA: I don't think the quote I copied/pasted confused people. I think they took from it exactly what was intended, which was that your FH eats meat and will be purchasing meat with funds that you guys share. Even if he buys it for himself, the money is coming from joint finances, so you are funding it in some way.

Just shoot the animals yourself.

Organic, free-range, well taken care for, but still meat.

Issue solved.

Remember, your guests are coming to your wedding strictly for you and your fiancé and along with that, you are getting a gift. Me personally I wouldn't wind a no meat option but I feel as though some people may be insulted meaning they're giving an envelope to you, they are going to want to get something out of it and it's if the time that's the food and entertainment

Because that is his choice. As an adult he has a choice about his diet, just like I do. Do I wish he were vegan? Sure. But he isn't, and that is his choice to make. I respect his choice and respects mine. His diet is based on preference rather than ethics and morals. I will not be buying animal products, just like I don't now. He is free to buy what he wants with his money. I don't need to "justify" his diet because we are separate people who have different approaches to our lives. Again, if I were a Muslim married to a Christian do I have to "justify" why I don't buy bacon? Some Omni/vegan couples do end up with the vegan buying animal products. There is no right or wrong to it, just what each person is comfortable with. Veganism is not about perfection. It is technically impossible to live in the developed world without consuming or using animal products in some form. Vegans do the best they can, even in face of a lot of hostility, because they have an ethical and moral objection to the use and consumption of animals. It's like a religious prohibition but it comes from your own conscience rather than religious teachings. That certainly doesn't mean that people who choose not to be vegan or veg are bad, evil people. Many of my loved ones are omnis. if anyone is actually interested, there are a lot of resources around the web for understanding veganism and on vegan nutrition (Ginny Messina is a great start). Sorry for cluttering up your thread, OP! Let us know what you decide on, and have a wonderful wedding!

"His diet is based on preference rather than ethics and morals"

lol no. He might just have different "morals and ethics" than you do.

@AlwaysMs, why dont you just have your FH buy the meat option for your wedding.......

You're missing the point. Your FH will be using the funds you guys share to buy his meat. Therefore, what would be the objection to him paying for meat at the reception? Explain why this would be wrong.

Guys, at this point I am waiting for a custom order to arrive from Etsy and will then be proposing. There is no "meat option" discussion that has happened yet. OP has a FH who eats meat, so she may have something to say on that subject. I am sure we will have lots of discussions about every facet of the wedding and I will let you all know how that goes. On a financial note, I have never been a fan of a single account for a couple. One account for joint things (rent, bills, shared groceries), one account with the rest of my money for me and one for him with his money. Nonshared, specialty stuff gets bought from your own account. For example, I am a tea freak and he is not. That's my account. Everyone does their finances differently. Yours may work better for you using a different method. Have a great day, y'all and I hope each of your weddings is lovely.

I went to an Indian wedding that was vegetarian and thought the food was great! Then again, I was vegan for 2 years. My dad probably would stop at a McDonald's before or after a vegetarian wedding.