Vegan wedding and no alcohol

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Grace,

WOW, well said grace! It's amazing how people are so quick to judge when all I simply asked was where I should advertise this information, haha!

I honestly don't feel like I'm imposing my beliefs onto others, it seems when people break tradition pigs are flying!

I appreciate the support you've provided me! It's stressful planning a wedding now people are upset because I want it all vegan?! Ohh hush!

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Jessica,

The difference is I'm not here to appease peoples world views, as this wedding is for my FH and I. No wonder so many people go broke just to impress others.

Of course I appreciate my guest but its not to your liking and that's OK because you feel you were "taught better" to host. ( I don't take it personal just "sounds" like you think I was raised by wolves, hahaha)

I know how to host and never had any complaints. My question wasn't asking how should I impress my guest. My question was how do I advertise this information.

The only people I want to spend my time, energy and money is the ones that love me the most (Thank god i have lots of love!).

Have a great day and thanks for discussion!

I am having a dry wedding and I am not stating that anywhere. Frankly I don't think you need to state it's a vegan meal, it's your day and your beliefs are at the center of it. My best friend is Muslim and had halal food at hers, I didn't need a warning because it's her wedding and her comfort level. Just like my wedding is dry because of my comfort level.
If people are close enough to you to be invited to your wedding they should know you're vegan and spreading word via mouth to expect a vegan meal is fine enough. You're paying for it, it's your wedding, it's your rules, I would only suggest adding an option to declare allergens for guests on your RSVPs.
I haven't decided on mocktails for our reception yet, I'm thinking a ginger beer or Arnold Palmer types of things.

Also for main entree you might want to consider a meal that is similar to a meat eater might have but make it vegan. Maybe like a pasta, or "chicken" and sides type of meal. Honestly I was a vegetarian for so long I forgot to add meat to my own wedding menu, which my mother politely pointed out. 🤣

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I'm so sorry that your venue doesn't seem that accommodating. The food options you are looking into sound good!

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I'll make this my last reply. I'm not trying to change your mind, simply shed light on your attitude towards your guests. You contradict yourself. You say in one sentence you're paying a pretty penny for your guests....and then that you don't want to go broke to impress people. You say you're inviting people out to host them, and then say that the wedding isn't for anyone but you and FH.

I'm simply trying to impress upon you that if you feel the wedding is only for you and FH, then you might as well elope and make it truly just for you. When you invite guests to participate in your day, you also invite upon yourself the pressure to properly host them. Now again, I'm not saying that feeding them a vegan meal ISN'T properly hosting them. I'm just saying there's a right attitude in doing so and and a wrong one.

Personally, if I were informed ahead of time, I'd still be happy to attend your vegan/dry wedding and support you and your marriage. Being practical though, even if I'd attend and support your wedding, I'd have to plan another meal that I'd have to pay for. So that may factor into how long I'd plan to stay at your celebration, and the amount I'd spend on your gift. As long as you're prepared for those things, throw the party you want. Good luck!

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Jessica,

I appreciate what you're trying to say, everyone is entitled to their own opinions. I didn't say I'm going broke, I said " No wonder so many people go broke just to impress others."

Of course its our wedding and our families however its still our choice at the end of it all

Thanks and Have a wonderful day!

Marlene, I saw this article and it might give you some inspiration for catering. All of these dishes look incredible! https://www.purewow.com/weddings/vegan-wedding-food-ideas

Just for more ideas - I think the vegan mains for our venue's menu are a choice between a risotto-stuffed bell pepper and grilled polenta napoleon with layered grilled vegetables, but they're also happy to modify the vegetarian pasta dishes and eggplant parmesan to make them vegan.

View Quoted Comment Wow Kelly !

Thank you for the feedback ! Brb while I read the article ! Omg stuffed bell peppers 🤤

thanks million !

View Quoted Comment Hahah !

I will look into this option, I’m honesty not a big fan of tofu but I will search for tasty options thanks for much !

View Quoted Comment Kelly!

Thanks for the inspiration story ! I figured I don’t have to let them know however I will probably create a website for my out of town guests just as a courtesy 🤗

One of my family members is vegan and hosted Christmas dinner a few years ago. Knowing she was vegan I expected vegan fare. And she did not disappoint! She threw down some of the best vegetables I've ever eaten in my life. It was awesome. I would mention it maybe as an insert in the wedding invites if at all. Thing is if you don't make it a big deal, others probably won't either. Especially since (assuming) everyone you're inviting knows you.

I would inform your guests that it's a vegan wedding if you are planning on including meat/dairy alternatives. People may not think to tell you about certain allergies (soy, coconut, walnut, ect -think dairy alternatives) because they aren't an issue most of the time. I'm not judging your choice for your menu (there is a vegan bakery near me that is AMAZING) but I think it's better to be upfront with guests. That way if one of your guests feels the need they can eat ahead of time or they can choose not to attend. I also think you will have less cranky guests - for some people eating a vegan meal is a huge dietary change. Telling them ahead of time is a nice way for them to get used to the idea. I would think those who are close to you wouldn't be surprised about the menu, but you never know.

If I'm buying a meal for myself, nope - not gonna be vegan. I like meat. I like cheese. A lot. That said, anyone can eat vegan for a meal and frankly, we all should try to incorporate it into our lives much more than we do for our own health and that of our planet. If I were invited to a wedding with vegan food only, I'd probably make a few jokes to my partner ahead of time, but I'd be there and be gracious, just as I would at an Indian wedding with Indian food or a Chinese wedding with Chinese food. In fact, I'd be curious to see if you could deliver a tasty meal. As a host, you should aim to serve your guests good food, period. You don't owe them meat specifically. I have had some amazing vegetable dishes, and amazing grain dishes. Good cooking and good flavor make for good food, even with limited ingredients. On the other hand, I've been to plenty of weddings with mediocre food. Meat can be mediocre too.

It's also your right to have a dry wedding. There are some risks, of course, like lack of dancing and people not sticking around. But totally within your rights as a host and it doesn't make you a bad person. But yeah, might not really feel like a Party with a capital P.

My first instinct was that there's no need to even announce it on your website (it certainly doesn't need to be on your STD or invites), but maybe you can share it on your site with some humor, and a promise that vegan food can be delicious - come and see for yourself!

I went to a vegan wedding that also had a cash bar for those of us that wanted a drink. There was no 'warning' before hand, I was a guest at their wedding and happy to be included. It was different, but it was fun!

Why should you pay for and serve something you wouldn't eat yourself? (And if it is for ethical reasons all the more so!)

And like Rebecca above me stated, people might try something they never would have thought of and be surprised! If not, they can always pick up something on their way home. lol

I'm really saddened by some of the responses here! We are vegan and had a vegan wedding. We did not "warn" anyone. We were not going to spend our money on something we believe is ethically wrong. Don't let anyone tell you you have to do otherwise! We provided GF and nut-free vegan options for those with dietary restrictions. We provided very hearty and filling meals and everyone gushed over how tasty it was. It's your big day, and you get to choose what that looks like, and your closest friends and family will understand that. They can go one meal without meat.

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Vegan food and we are having premium open bar !
We compromised with the alcohol part at least lol

View Quoted Comment Thanks so much ! I don’t care about what others say negatively. It was just a question lol


What kind of vegan meals did you have at the wedding !

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Butternut squash ravioli

Mushroom Risotto

Grilled Seitan w/mashed potatoes

And lots of appetizers and vegan pumpkin cake!

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