Vegan wedding and no alcohol

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Jeanelle,

I would def let my guest know just wasn't sure how to announce it and where. I would never say its one thing when its clearly another. My guest know us and I don't think veggies would hurt for a 20 min meal or so...

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Kiana,

NOT imposing my beliefs on anyone. Everyone I invite will either eat before they come or starve. haha! I mean my guest know what I eat and like and if they don't like then they wont have to come

What if I asked my guest to pay for their meal would they be happy then? If I pay its what I put on the table not my guest as I'm not asking for them to pay for their plate.

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Jessica,

I mean if its my wedding, isn't it what I would like not what my guest would like?

If I pay over 10K on my wedding and my guest aren't paying a thing why would I have to have MEAT if I don't eat it?

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Hi Grace,

Thanks for the input. I mean my FH already told me no meat or alcohol in our wedding and I agree. I feel like maybe I'll advise on a wedding website instead of STD.

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Jennifer,

My question was asking if I should put the info on save the dates or somewhere else not my beliefs.

--Yes I know they're my guest but my FH and I are paying for the wedding, so vegan dishes it is!

Thanks for the input

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I mean, if you don't care about your guests or their preferences why even have guests? You and FH go get hitched and eat your vegan meal in peace. I have tons of dietary restrictions and preferences too. Luckily, I thought about my guests' preferences over my own to make sure everyone I invited was comfortable and had an enjoyable time. That's how I was taught to host.

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Jennifer,

Yes! There are many tasty flavorful vegan dishes out there! I'm not planning to have everyone eat a salad with cucumbers as an entree.

Its funny because I never asked people to eat vegan meal because of my "beliefs" This is my lifestyle and others should adhere to it if I'm paying for it nonetheless.

The alcohol part I'm not worried about I'm sure some will have, but I just wanted some inspirations of vegan meals if anyone had one but that went left with this post, haha.

--Thanks for the suggestion, will be creating a website to have this information on it!

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Jessica,

I get it, everyone gets in their feelings and will always have their opinions (guest or not) however, I do care about my guest and if I invite you to my wedding its to celebrate us as a couple, not just food and alcohol (that's an extra service I'll provide as a HOST to my guest).

My guest will be comfortable but if you can't eat meat or drink alcohol for one night, that's a personal problem.

Thank you for the input

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Sarah!

This is by far the best opinionated comment I've received thus far!

Its not that I don't care about my guest "preferences" it's my wedding and my entrees will be all vegan. I'm not even asking my guests to a penny for food or drinks.

It's literally just one night for about 20 mins - 1 hour max, how hard can that be!

Thank you for being real and understanding its not about getting drunk or meal preferences its about celebrating a new union.

View Quoted Comment That’s a good idea! Also just wanted to say that no one had told me I’m imposing my beliefs on them by having an extremely Christian wedding ceremony and if you were having a traditional Indian/Jewish/Muslim/whatever type of wedding I wouldn’t expect you to serve anything other than that type of food just to appease me so I think you are perfectly fine with just serving vegan items!

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D,

Exactly my point! I don't know how people associate vegan and belief, like it's 2019 people even beyonce encourages people to go vegan.

This is not a trend for me its a lifestyle and if you don't want to come to my wedding because of food and no alcohol like i said before its a personal problem.

An afternoon/evening wedding for sure possibly wine (maybe) but other than that I don't see why people need to drink at night just to have fun?

But I will let people know exactly what i'll have as meal and drink preferences.

Thanks for the input and this isn't a fake post just didn't realize how many people got offended!

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I don't see it as a big deal, people just get in their feelings and feel like their being attacked because of no meat or alcohol.

Imagine getting black out drunk and then trying to go home and drive? Doesn't make sense to me, I know some can handle their liquor but not all.

Its only for a few hours people geez, I'm not even "pressuring" people to go vegan all I asked was for some inspirations instead got some extra opinionated answers.

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Hi Angelena,

I've been to three weddings this year and no one "accommodate" me and my FH. The only thing I ate was a salad and drank some water. Did I complain? NOPE.

I ate before I arrived to the reception and still had a great time.

Should be reciprocated but 99% of the time it isn't. So shouldn't I have the wedding of my dreams that include the type of vegan food that my guest would like?

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Christine,

Thanks for your suggestions. I'm actually looking into serving maybe beer and wine and getting price quotes as we speak. I will let my guest know for sure and the website idea is something I'm working on

Its crazy because A lot of wedding's I went to didn't advertise that and I was little surprised ( even though I don't drink) however I will def let me guest know.

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Hi Vanessa,

Thank you for your input and I will look into my venue to see if they can be as accommodating. I honestly want to make sure there isn't any cross contamination with food ( had a tasting and everything was all over the place) they told me my dish was vegan and it def had a steak and sea bass. I mean there are tasty alternatives and I'm hoping the venue I pick can provide what I ask.

So no for STD but I i'm working on a website to pull additional information. I honestly don't want my guest too intoxicated (as they have to drive home, but thank goodness for uber!) But that's their prerogative.

As for food options I'm looking into mashed potatoes, veggies, pastas, and eggplant lasagna!

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That's always the go to line. "You should be here to celebrate us as a couple..."

Sure...they should. And they are! And typically have spent quite a bit of money to be there to "celebrate you as a couple"....and then you're providing nothing to celebrate or thank them for their time, energy, and money spent. I just don't think it sounds like you appreciate your guests at all with the wording you're using. Sounds like "sucks for you...I know you don't like any of this...but we do, so oh well!" To me, a bride and groom should make every effort to make sure their guests feel wined and dined and appreciated. But again, maybe we were just taught to host differently. Perhaps your guests know you well and won't expect much.

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Stephanie,

Thanks for the input. I'm thinking about beer and wine but as for the food it will be vegan as long as my venue will accommodate (I mean I'm paying a hefty price per plate).

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MOB So Cal,

Thanks for the suggestion. I know my crowd as they know me. I travel with lots of my guest and they know I strict eat vegan food anywhere I go.

I'm not going to allow others pressure me into having meat or diary products when I simply don't eat this. Honestly majority of my family is vegan or vegetarian and most don;t drink. I also save a pretty penny with no alcohol.

Thinking about wine and beer options and working on a website to advise this information.

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Kelly,

The only thing with having vegan and not vegan food is cross contamination. However, as much as I like that idea, I just want people to understand that its not up to the guest to decide the menu.

If i invite you out, I'm pretty much hosting and paying for an event you can come too. So whats to if you eat vegan food for one night you know.

But thank you for the suggestions

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Cortney,

I'm possibly thinking of having beer and wine.

As for food, it will be vegan but thanks for the suggestion!