Using alcohol given at engagement party for your wedding

The only time I've seen this was a "Stock the bar" shower....but it was literally to stock the newlyweds bar at home. Not the bar at the wedding. People gave liquor, wine, barware, cocktail recipe books, etc. The couple was very into craft cocktails and it was perfect for them, but it was also absolutely for them.

They were not getting bottles of wine for the party, they were getting things more along the lines of elderflower liquor, and specialty bitters, etc. Truly unique bar stuff.

The way described here sounds super tacky.

Ugh so tacky!

Asking folks to stock the bar is out of order. If someone gave alcohol on their own without a request, then it's a gift and you can do with it what you please.

Umm...no words

So they hosted their own engagement party in order to provide for their wedding.

Are they going to ask them to bring flowers as gifts for the bridal shower so they can have centerpieces for the wedding?

Wow, caddy haters gone hate. The negativity here is mind blowing. Shame on you for taking a concept with good intentions and flipping it to sound selfish and cheap. This concept is for brides and grooms who are not alcohol savvy to accommodate picky guests. Rather than just hoping you get it right, this ensures people who have a preference will find their drink of choice at your wedding. How considerate.

However, guests of a pre wedding party should be welcomed to bring a bottle if they have a preference, not asked. Being given the option to byob is better than going to a wedding that's serving wine and beer when you only drink vodka. Then I have to continuously sneak out to my car cooler and miss out on festivities. Not cool.

I you are going to cry about being asked to bring a $20 botte to a $20,000 wedding let's hope the couple is wise enough not to waste a seat to a negative Nancy like you anyway. Accepting a seat at a wedding and then criticizing how the happy couple does things, now that is rude.