Using a friend/family member as officiant?

My dad became an ordained minister so he could perform a family friends wedding. When I got engaged the first thing my FH and I agreed on was my dad is going to marry us. I called him and asked him. He of course said yes. No fees but we are getting him multiple thank you gifts.

If you are asking a family or friend that is a clergy member they may require premarital counseling which is why we asked my uncle about a year and a half in advance so we had time to do everything we needed to! He told us we aren't paying him, but I was thinking about getting him a tie that would match the groomsmen as a gift!

We asked my FH's brother to officiate. He's officiated one other wedding before and did such a great job and we just wanted to keep the ceremony all about family. We asked him at the same time that we asked him to be a groomsman (for the photos) and his wife to be a bridesmaid. We asked almost a year out from the wedding; we were just too excited to wait, and we knew they would be involved whether we waited to ask or not. We aren't planning on paying him but we are going to get him a little gift as a thank you. We asked him by just writing a little note and putting it on a bottle of his favorite alcohol (which sounds funny now that I think about it...). He was really hoping we would ask and told us that he had already figured out what he wanted to say before we had even asked him!

We didn’t even have to ask! When we made it official on Facebook, my friend commented and said he knew a guy that’d be a great officiant. He was talking about himself of course. I actually paid him to officiate my mom and step dad’s wedding a few years ago! So we paid him $100 to do it. He asked for $75 so we gave him extra as a tip.

I had ask my cousin to officiate our wedding a whole 1 1/2 our as soon had we had our venue picked because he could on do 2 a year so we wanted to make sure we had him and I loved it because it was someone that knew us

We actually got lucky, a mutual friend asked us if we had an officiant yet and when we said no, he offered to do it for us. He became ordained for a previous wedding so it at least wouldn't be his first, and he is doing it as a gift. We will be getting him a thank you gift, probably a nice bottle of scotch or something along those lines.

FH's SIL is ordained and has done a few family weddings so we always liked the idea of having her do the ceremony. I had planned on asking her more formally, but we got an elopement package and the planner said she really needed to know ASAP if she needed to hire someone or not so we just called SIL and asked that way. I've gotten her 1 gift so far (a bracelet) but planning for more.

A college friend of mine is an attorney and ordained officiant, so it was a given that I’d ask her. I simply called her and told her how much it would mean to me to have her marry us and she agreed. There is no fee for her services, she gifted it to me. I will, however, get her something for her trouble and I plan to have her walk down the aisle before me to honor her and how important she is to the ceremony.

My brother will be officiating now. We wanted a way to include him in the ceremony without forcing FI to have him as a groomsman and when all the officiant quotes I got were ridiculously overpriced we asked my brother during a family dinner. Super casual!

Has anyone asked someone who wasn't ordained already?

Our officiant is our dear friend, who was already on her way to becoming ordained. She was the only person FH and I could agree upon.
We took her to coffee, and because my FH CANT WAIT for anything, he just looked at her and goes “So, do you want to marry us?”
Pause
”Not like marry us marry us, but like do the ceremony?” We got a good laugh out of it and she said yes! She refuses to let us pay her, so we’re giving her a Thank You gift with a little bit of cash hidden inside, just because.

We asked my brother about a month after got engaged which was 16 months before the wedding but we knew immediately when we got engaged that he was perfect to do it. He lives out of state so we just called him one day and asked him and he was really excited. He recently got ordained so he could perform a friend's wedding next month so we knew he could already do it. We won't be paying him but will be getting him a special gift like we are for parents and BP (he would have been a groomsman if he wasn't officiating).

FH and I are using his mom as our officiant. We've asked her already so that she had enough time to plan and set the date aside for us. We are debating how much to pay her now because we know that she will need a room. So we're not sure if we're going to just give her enough money that covers her room plus a fee or pay for the room and then give a small fee. I'm also not sure if I still will give gifts for the MOG,as well since she has dual roles.