Ushers and readers

Ushers: Usually they help seat guests and can escort special guests like Grandma, MOG, MOB etc. You can have as many as you wish, I had two but I only had about 100guests. The more guests you have the more ushers you may want to consider, just because there will be more guests to seat. You can ask anyone you'd like to be an usher, and it doesn't have to be men only. I asked my uncle and one of my cousins.

Readers: Typically are those that can read a passage from the Bible or poem, whatever you'd want to be read during the ceremony. The reason for a reason is soley up to you, no one is required to have readers. I didn't have any, I wanted my ceremony sweet and short.

So is there assigned seating for the ceremony too then? i thought it was that everyone just sat where they wanted...

Nope, there isan't assigned seating for the ceremony. Unless, you decide to go with the grooms/brides side thing. Ushers just usually help seat guests so that there aren't random empty seats in the middle of rows where it can make it harder for late guests or others to find a seat quickly, you know what i mean?

Ohhh ok, yeah, i see

Congratulations!

There are not any stupid questions when it comes to weddings. Ushers are chosen by you and the groom to seat your guests; especially your and his family. There isn't assigned seating except for the first two rows on either side that are reserved for your imitate family, i.e. mothers, fathers, grandparents, etc. Facing out from the altar the left side is groom’s family and friends and the right is the bride’s family and friends. Depending on how large your guest list is a typical formal wedding would require four ushers. They can be anyone you can trust to follow directions even the groom’s party can assist with this. This is not a requirement but more of a formal tradition that you can choose to do or not. I would however recommend that someone usher your and his mothers, father, and grandparents to their seats. As for the readers, you decide if you are going to have someone read a poem, reading, scripture, etc. during your ceremony. You also decide what is going to be read. The Wedding Officiant can assist you with this as well. There are some really helpful books on wedding etiquette that can be found at the library. I hope this has helped and I wish you both the very best.

One thing to consider regarding your Ushers -- I specifically picked one person who knew my side of the family, and one who knew my fiance's side of the family.

That way -- there isn't any way someone asks my dearest Aunt Judie if she's a member of the bride or groom -- they'll just know.