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Updated: Did anyone marry a Jew in a Catholic ceremony?

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Maria, on May 16, 2017 at 6:15 PM

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I grew up Catholic and he grew up Jewish. We're both firm believers in God but we're pretty relaxed about the details. The opportunity has come up to have our ceremony in the Church across the street form our venue and there would be no gap! We're really excited about getting married in front of God. In my research I've noticed that the Catholic Church is pretty flexible with interfaith marriages with protestants since they're baptized. Not our case. It's too late to call them right now, so I thought I'd ask WW. Have you attended a Catholic wedding where one person was Jewish? Do you know the behind the scenes logistics?

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Super March 2018
S. Suarez · on May 17, 2017 at 9:16 PM
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@Maria H: beautiful!!!! So much history there. A total true dream come true.
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Super April 2017
Alyssa B. · on May 17, 2017 at 10:23 PM
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You can marry someone who is not baptised in the Catholic Church. In VA at least they will even allow you to include another faith Minister like a rabbi you just won't have mass.
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Melaina · on May 18, 2017 at 3:05 AM
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I am not catholic but FH is and his mother would not hear of it being anything but a catholic wedding so his priest agreed to marry us but it hasn't been easy. Lots of hoops and things I'm not used to traditionally but as long as you're okay with hoops and your FH is okay with things he's not used to they will probably let you without the mass.
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Sarah · on May 18, 2017 at 5:08 AM
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I went to a catholic wedding where the groom was hindi and the bride catholic. She received the sacraments, he didn't. It is really what the priest is comfortable doing. They have lots more flexibility then they used to.
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Master June 2018
Maria · on May 20, 2017 at 11:41 AM
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Update 2:

We just met with our local priest and he's a gem! I'm seriously tempted to fly him out so he can perform our ceremony but that's way out of budget. He's kind, moved here last year from Staten Island where he's worked a lot with interfaith initiatives especially after the 9/11 attacks. He speaks Spanish and Japanese. We have to do Pre cana at a neighboring church. He'll help us get a dispensation for disparity of worship. This is specifically for marriages where one person isn't baptized. There is a separate dispensation for marriages between Christians of different denominations. Thank you for the tips and tidbits about how to spend less time tracking down baptism, first communion, and confirmation records. We had to fill out a form with our address and when he noticed we lived together he said it's his duty as our pastor to say that's not advised, but he understands it's 2017. We were so nervous about that and he just brushed it off!
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