Update: Is it rude to ask if I'm invited to a wedding

My FH would have been more irate over this than I would be. His family and friends know we are a package deal. Sorry they are rude to you, but your FH doesn't have to go.

This is super rude. Your future husband should say something to his friend if it's a close friend. If not, don't say anything and don't go. Unbelievable. Edit: Grammar

Wtf, so by offering the guests a weekend away from their wives I'm assuming they're not inviting women? Or are female guests also not able to bring their partners?

This is so gross and offensive. If I were your FH I would not be celebrating the marriage of someone who has no respect for other people's relationships.

Agreed with PP. I really hope your he declines out of respect for you.

EW!!! So sorry that happened to you. I wouldn't give a gift lol #pettyaf

ETA: Yeah no, I agree with PPs I would be pissed if FH even thought about accepting haha

I hope your SO isn't considering going.

If this were my FH I'd tell him we're all declining. They clearly can't budget or manage this project. Couples cannot be split up. It's flat out rude and I'm sure if the shoe were on the other foot this couple would not be happy.

ETA: And I would not give a gift. If I'm not good enough for an invite then you damn sure ain't good enough for me to spend my hard-earned money on.

Rude AF! You go on fishing trips to be away from the wives; marriage celebrations are specifically to be with your wife! Jesus! I wouldn't think too much in your FH sugar coating the reason. I'm sure he was embarrassed by his friend's rudeness. But he has to decline that invite. I wouldn't even send a gift.

Getting away from your wife? Is he ready to get married?

Omg

Your FH needs to decline and needs to tell them why he declined. Because they are rude as fuck.

Wooooooow!!! I'm so sorry you had to see these messages and find out what shitty people they are. And "thought you wanted a weekend away from the wife" is such bs. Who does that!? Ugh

FH would decline in a heartbeat. That's awful. I can't imagine inviting 1/2 of a couple to a wedding.

I can't believe anyone thought this was a good idea in any way.. I've never in my life heard of anyone not inviting someone's SO?? Crazy!

Wow this is rude af. Your SO should decline and tell him why

Wow!!! I've never seen this before. We gave a plus one For our friends and family who are single, just in case they want to bring a date, or friend to talk to. We are having approximately 150 with every person having a plus one. An adult only reception.

Your FH needs to decline the invitation. You are NOT a "plus one"!!

So you're saying they have 180-200 friends and that doesn't include their SOs? Highly doubtful. Nobody has that many friends. Lol. Maybe they do but something sounds fishy about that I guess. I'd honestly wonder if that's an excuse to not invite certain people. Have you had any issues with this couple previously/is there any reason that this couple wouldn't want to invite you? I'm not trying to stir the pot or anything, but that would be sketchy in my eyes.

"Seperation of the wife for the weekend" excuse me. What is this a bachelor party?! That is rude! If they couldn't afford a big wedding they shouldn't have one. I hope this is NOT a close friend of your FH although we all know there are always those one friends. FH should not attend.

Years ago my late husband got invited to a college buddy's DW but I didn't. He said it was because he knew it would be too hard for us to find a sitter for our 3 kids. My husband went without me. I was livid. Geesh. Rude.