**Update in comments**How to delete account..

Man you guys are waaaay too judgy of people. If she wants to leave she can leave and owes no one any explanation.

Now, if you need to access the desktop version of this website on your mobile you can do so by going to WeddingWire.com on your browser (safari, chrome, whatever) and scroll all the way down to the bottom and click where says desktop site. Then navigate from there to do what you need to do to delete.

Start afresh somewhere else with somebody else.

Hi OP - Take the time you need.

And definitely buy new furniture. I HATED looking at stuff I had purchased with my ex. It was just a painful reminder.

I'm sorry you're going through this! Glad to see you have a counselor, I'm sure that will help a lot.

*HUGS*

I'm so sorry. :'/

Just...hugs!

TRicia no one was being judgy at all. All the comments i've seen in this thread have been amazingly supportive!

OP, i'm so sorry. My heart breaks for you. I understand all to well about toxic family. We're always here if you want to talk or vent. I'm sending hugs and thoughts your way.

T, sometimes life just sucks. We plan, we believe, we dream, we hope, and despite our best contributions to a relationship, it doesn't work.

I know, at this moment, you probably don't feel what we see, and what we see is a woman who is going to have her happiness, security, and her best friend by her side. So many of us look at your situation and wonder if our words would match our deeds, but you've proved to yourself -- and that's most important -- that you aren't taking shortcuts.

Best luck to you. I'm sorry the app upsets you, but remember, if you wanna talk, we wanna listen.

I am so sorry. sending you positive thoughts and a hugs.

Tricia- yes she can leave, but we are offering her support. How is that judgey? Get a grip. We're worried about her.

Aw, T, I remember you and I admire your strength! We're here for you xox

Tricia, wth?

Hugs to you. It's amazing during times like this how you find the strength deep down. Keep your chin up.

I'm so sorry, OP. Do what you need to do.

I truly believe there is better out there for you T. Work on you and get your happy back. Hugs and kudos for being so strong.

@T, I'm so, so sorry. You are incredibly strong to do what's best for you even when it hurts. If deleting this account is what will help you, then please do it. But know that we're here for you if you want to just delete the app and keep your account activated. You can always come back here if you need someone to talk to.

You have a strength that is awe-inspiring. Never forget that. A lot of women/men wouldn't have left a situation with that or followed through with an ultimatum. I know that right now that knowledge might not be the most comforting thing to know but I hope with time it can offer you some solace. However, it is that strength that makes me certain you're going to be just fine. It will take some time to heal, and you absolutely should take that time, but you seem like a resilient woman. If it seems too difficult to bring him to your counseling session then you don't have to do it.

I understand your desire to delete the app but I look forward to reading future updates should you decide to do so later. In the meantime, I wish you the very best in life!

So I am back and counseled (if you can even call it that). After a very trying day. I called the person we all want to call my momma. Although, she is on my side, she did take his to. She said it is good that I am standing firm on the situation but unfair to him I did it hastly and without much thought. It seems to be the all around advice, from family. I don't believe in discussing marital issues or relationship issues with family, I believe it opens a door for confliction and judgement that may not be necessary. His family feels as if I am running because I can't handle a family that is close (my family is not close). I feel that, having a front row seat, only I know what is best for myself and most importantly my children. I do not regret my decision, even though it's been hard. So after not sleeping much, I go see a man that has been in my life for 20+ years, my counselor. He knows me inside and out. He knows my pain as a child, a teenager a young adult and now. So I show up and low and behold my FH is there. I guess there is someone in my family that felt the need to let him know. Anyways, he starts off with I am sorry I know this is intrusive (you think) but I need to understand where you are coming from and your pain. I want to help you through this but I also need help understanding it. I, in the nicest way possible, told him that I'd he didn't understand it by now then he never would. And that if he couldn't see how emotional I was about all this then he was blind and dumb. I have been very blunt and upfront, through this whole process. So anyways he goes in with me and we start getting into all the details and he is just blind sided (his words) that I feel so strongly about this. Uh well ya I do you are being taken advantage of and enabling this to happen. So an hour session ends with him still being confused at how his sister is coming between us because he doesn't see where it is a problem. So I told him right there in the counselors office it was over, that I am moving on. That hurts but if he can't see it now after 12 years he never will. Thank you guys for all your support and kind words.

Way to go, T!!!!!!!!!

xo

If you go under settings, below all of you personal information, you can hit the deactivate my account.

Awwww @T you and your children come first if he doesn't see it now he never will. And he still doesn't get it after counseling he never will and to say that you're jealous because his family is close and yours isn't is a stretch if anything that would make you want a close family but this situation is definitely toxic.