Unsettling finds in the dryer

If you’re getting married and can’t talk about these things, that to me is the concern, not the meds. Waiting two days to talk about it and then springing it on him when you can’t fully communicate probably wasn’t the best either. You need to have a face to face conversation and let the focus be that you love and support him no matter what, and just want to understand. If you approach it on the defense and accuse him, he likely won’t want to share and open up. You should be able to talk to each other about anything, with no judgement. And by all means, DO NOT look through his phone and social media. That is honestly the worst advice to follow, and says more about you than him. Invading someone’s privacy is so much worse than hiding an embarrassing medical condition.

I hope everything worked out for you. Heather! Like a lot of previous poster friends have suggested, maybe he was embarrassed.

Personally, I wouldn't automatically assume the worst. I think that you should try to understand why he may be embarrassed. I would bring it up again while you're having dinner in private, or hanging out together and simply be like "Hey, I know this may be uncomfortable to talk about but I was just surprised. Since I am going to be your wife soon, I just want you to be open an honest with me so that maybe I can help!" make it flirty, and make it sweet. This is your husband, not some guy you've been seeing for a few weeks.

I totally understand the seriousness and sensitivity of the situation but he's marrying you and he needs to have the conversation about it.

I would try to make the conversation or atmosphere as comfortable as possible for you two to talk. Just listen to what he has to say empathize that he has this issue, encourage him that you are there to always support him but I would be firm when I say that we will not be starting our future off on secrets and lies that he should be able to tell you everything and express his feelings always to you.