Unreliable family members...I'm going to cry.

I know its a small thing, but it was important to me. Now I don't know if there's enough time for him to learn it and record it.

(He has a recording studio in his basement, so he definitely has the resources. )

*sigh*

Can today just be over please?

I'm sorry Today sucks for me too because of unreliable family. That sucks...he didn't realize that YOU could've found a video on YouTube? Duh. Hang in there; we're almost there!!!

He has time to record it if he really wanted to. If he sang it to your Aunt and your sister, he already knows the song. I would text him and politely tell him the reasons you wanted him to do it for you and see if maybe he can do it.

ETA - I'm so sorry! Big hugs.

I'm so sorry. It's hard to handle the family disappointments when there are a million other things on your plate. Hang in there. Ninjaaa is right, If he knows how important it is, and he has the resources to get it done, perhaps he will.

Its a different song, but its really not hard...and he's an amazing pianist...he plays everything by ear, so he could learn it.

I definitely have a plan B, because the video he sent me IS really pretty...or I'll just play the damned Depeche Mode version and not have an instrumental.

UGH. Frustration.

Poor FH doesn't know what to do with me right now. lol

JP: I know right? I mean...I sent him a Youtube link to an instrumental version so that he could learn it! *sigh*

He's got some other issues that keep him from being super reliable anyway, but I thought I was clear...maybe I wasn't as clear as he needed me to be, but he knows now.

Can you get someone else to talk to him? You don't need this much stress right now. Sorry this happened

I'm sure my mom will. I'll have to call her after work.

Did he volunteer to learn any song and record himself playing it for you? In general, you shouldn't expect someone to do something for your wedding unless they volunteer.

I asked him months ago, and he agreed.

Its kind of a tradition in my family for him to be musically involved: as I stated above, he sang to my aunt as she walked down the aisle, and also for my sister.

I didn't want him to sing, just to play the piano. I asked him months ago to learn a song (very easy for someone of his talent) and to record it and send it to me, and he agreed.

When someone agrees to do something, and says that they're flattered to help...yeah, I do expect them to follow through, especially since its family.

I'm sorry that he mis-understood what you were trying to get him to do.. It sucks that this stuff happens when people don't originally volunteer for the specific thing that you are hoping for. I'm sure he feels badly that he didn't do what you were expecting and he'll do his best to rectify the situation.

I am so sorry this happened. It's so frustrating when you ask someone to do something (especially family) and they don't come through. Sending e-hugs.

I'm sure that's very heartbreaking. I'm so sorry, hopefully he can get it done for you soon!

Thanks guys.

I'm just SO frustrated...I feel a little bit like because I'm getting married so late in life compared to my sister, that it just doesn't really matter to a lot of people.

That and the fact that our wedding is so super low key (which is how we want it) it feels like no one but me is taking any of it seriously...well...me and mom, because she's paying for it.

*sigh*

I know everything will work out. Whether he actually plays it or not, its still going to be beautiful...i'm just heartbroken, because I feel like he wasn't REALLY listening or interested when I told him about it before...and all the times I've asked since. And if he was confused, he should have asked me.

You asked him, or you told him? It sounds like you never actually asked and just assumed. It's disappointing, but your family/friends may just want to be guests and you have to accept that. My husband's aunt/godmother declined doing a reading which we were very surprised by, but we understood. You will just need a plan B!

No, I asked.

Believe me, I'm being more considerate that most people would be with a lot of things on this wedding.

I'm not the kind of person to just say 'Oh hey do this.'

I told him what I wanted, and asked if he would do it, and he said yes, so he DIDN't decline.

Aw Yasmin I'm sorry girlfriend. Hugs!

I went back and re-read my post here, and I can see why it might appear that I didn't ask.

I was crying and angry when I typed it, so I didn't complete my thought. I edited the post to make sure that it is accurately showing what was said.

Sorry if I'm replying a little defensively. I'm just really hurt. More looking to vent. I have a plan b, but its not what I wanted, and what I thought was clearly agreed upon.

I'm sure you guys would feel the same if something you thought had been communicated super clearly ended up being completely wrong with just a little over 2 weeks to go.

Just have to say....Depeche Mode is my FAVORITE BAND EVER!!!

Your wedding is fast approaching and there are so many details to attend to....it's stress time. And every little thing does count, so when crap happens with something that is important it's melt down time. It's good you have plan B and it will all be fine. When you get down to the last month, the last week, especially that last day, you won't care. I didn't. The cake could have collapsed and I wouldn't have cared, because something inside you switches. While I worked hard to get everything done up to the last minute, at the same time it was no longer about the decorations, or the caterer or even the guests....whom I did want to have a very good time by the way. My focus was all about my husband and saying I do and if everything else went to hell I was fine with it. My wedding day was perfect, mishaps and all.

MrsA, thank you for that.

Depeche Mode is freaking AWESOME! We got to see them for the first time live together as a couple. So incredible.

Somebody just describes EVERYTHING about what we wanted and what we feel we've found in each other.

Awww - I'm so sorry! I have my fingers crossed for you that he can learn it before 11/6 and that you will get exactly what you have visioned.