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View Quoted Comment YES! I relate to all of this so much.

I did shed like 1/2 a tear when FH proposed... more a combination of a really crappy, stressful day, my best friend getting married 4 days before, and starting shark week lol.

I didn't cry over my dress either, but I also kind of knew I wouldn't... I'm not a dress up kind of girl, jeans and an old hockey t-shirt are my jam. I just chose the one I kept comparing all the rest too.

You aren't doing anything wrong, some of us are just don't show emotion that way and some of us just don't get emotional over something like a dress. You do you girl, there is nothing wrong with you.

When you read about sex, it is always fireworks. Never just immensely satisfying . Not all of us dreamed all our lives about our wedding day. I never did. I dreamed about being married. I dreamed about having children. And being happy with both. When I was little I wanted to grow up comfortable in my own skin , independent, capable, and sure of myself. Never, ever wanted to be a princess. Never wanted to be a movie star. ... I shopped myself because I like to, and find far more things when I concentrate on what I am doing. Years if having made dresses and gowns, professionally to get through school, now when I feel like it as a gift, I check out dresses on a hanger, seeing the cut, and know what it will look like on me, usually, so I went through a rack in the back room of a big shop I have done special alterations for, for years. Flipped through about 150 dresses. Pulled 5. Would have been happy with any of 3, one was too short waisted , other would have suited a formal ball but I wanted to try it on anyways. It was fun, but not really for our setting . So I brought my mom and FI to look. I favored one only because it was pale gold, but the other 2 could have been ordered in gold, or blue, which I wanted. My FI started tears down his face at that one, and mom put her hands over her mouth and began to shake. OK, I said, this one. The gown was available from Maggie Sottero in just over 4 months, made custom length, and with an extra detachable train. I was happy wearing it. 20 others would have pleased me. The pictures were great then, and now. I was satisfied by my appearance in every way. No glorious, this is the one, moment. When my younger cousin / gid daughter asked if she could wear it in 7 months, I said yes. And just after that, my sister wore my shoes and the detachable train, with a totally different dress. Then I donated the dress to a giveaway room some friends who are social workers keep for women getting out of foster care, no family, no money. Several people said, I was heartless, how could I let other people ( unless my daughter later) in my family wear it so soon? Or give it away. Well, I kept the husband... All I really wanted out of the deal . . . . The only thing I was unhappy about with my wedding, was the one thing that went wrong. I screwed up. And it became a joke people still bring up. The only absolute, just like the movies, glowing thing that left me struck speechless, in a happy way, was when I went looking for my dress a week before the wedding, stored in a closet at my parents, and it was gone. Went running to my mom, who said go see your dad in his study. For 5 weeks he had had it hanging on a peg he put up for the hanger, 10 feet from he's desk, and he was sitting looking at it , with this wonderful expression, as he had apparently done for weeks. Oh Daddy. Of all the ballyhooed, hyped up moments they have in the movies, the ring, the dress, FI seeing you come down the aisle, that was what made me happiest. And after we were engaged, when FI brought me an engagement ring he picked. A plain enamel painted band. No stone. Cobalt blue, made of high tech glass ceramic. Which pleased me no end. Because it said he accepted me for who I am. Not a princess. I use my hands, and power tools near wet places in my profession. I play fiddle and flute, and rings with stones or metal bands bother me. And I am a hiker, rock climber, and do most of the work on our farm. Though I never said anything, I would have worn a ring if metal with a stone maybe 2 times a week to go out. But this one , perfect, for the way I really spend my time. And a pair of diamond earrings, tucked away when not in use, for my girly girl moments . . . . I was happy with my wedding, satisfied, nothing lacking. My parties really were heartwarming. I have a wonderful marriage, to a man I love, five kids, our house and farm. I would not trade any if it for anything. But a movie producer or screenwriter would find my experience boring. All those " special moments" for the things you named? Nope. It was a few spread out days of wedding. 2 of my siblings and 2 first cousins married in the 2 months before me. I was in seven weddings for friends, agreed to before FI and I got serious. Happily shared the attention. How nice to have all these friends and family happy for what Hubby and I call, the year of 17 weddings. Maybe I am missing some switch other people have. Don't care. I am happy on a daily basis. Whatever I am lacking, I do not miss it. Don't spend too much time worrying about the high drama of reality TV weddings, or the hype of the wedding industry. Just quietly enjoy things, be satisfied things go as you planned, then concentrate on happily ever after. That feeling, I have .

I’m the same. I had a good experience with my dress like happy but no tears. I’m not an emotional person. When I’m surprised by amazing things I kind of shut down and get silent. Like a “is this real life” kind of deal. That’s exactly what had happened during my proposal and my brother was like wtf lol. I had a feeling it would happen as we had conveniently “killed time” in a jewelry store before going to a movie but had no idea when. But total excitement but shut down lol.

You're fine! We were at a point we knew the engagement was coming so I didn't cry. I did cry when I found the dress but more so because I had the "this is getting real, i'm a bride" moment. Not because it was "the one"

I feel this! I smiled a lot when I found my dress but I remember some of the salespeople I came across being like "Oh, if you're not crying it's not the one!" I never cried. I didn't cry at my proposal either. I think different people experience different emotions. I'm not a very sentimental person to be honest and while I may cry on the wedding day because I'm marrying my best friend, the dress and the ring and the cake aren't necessarily things that bring tears to my eyes!

No, you are fine. I cried when he proposed only because 1) we had never discussed marriage and 2) the way he was talking he sounded like he was breaking up with me so yeah....I cried! But as for everything else, I was pretty Actual Factual about things. I mean, I finally bought a wedding dress six weeks before and tried it on in my living room, alone. It shipped from Amazon, lol. It sounds like the wedding fever that causes some ladies to be the ever famous Bridezilla has not gotten to you, nor will it!!!

Ha! Girl, who are you telling. I definitely didn’t cry when my FH proposed to me and I already knew I wasn’t going to have “the one” feeling in my dress. All the dresses I absolutely loved, were ones I didn’t want to spend several thousands of dollars on when it could go to my college loans or house down payment.

I teared up a bit when he proposed but my initial reaction was "YES! I can tell everyone now! Update Facebook status"

We had been talking about getting married for a minute so it wasn't a big surprise.

I have had no feelings towards any of the wedding dresses I have worn in the past or the one I'm wearing now. Honestly, I have PTSD and have trouble experiencing positive affect so I'm sort of used to my feelings not being what's normal or expected during happy occasions.