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Just Said Yes May 2020

Unpopular Opinion?

Rachel, on July 30, 2019 at 4:46 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 1 29

I didn't cry or freak out during the proposal. I didn't cry or have that "The One" feeling when I tired on and bought my dress. Pretty much I am just asking if other brides have felt the same way. Not to say I am not excited for the wedding and everything but I feel like I haven't done anything right because I haven't felt the way I assumed I would? I also think this is dumb but I don't know I just wanted to hear other opinions.

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Latest activity by W-K, on August 16, 2019 at 12:01 PM
  • Courtney
    Master December 2019
    Courtney ·
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    It's okay, I didn't either. Some of us just aren't overly emotional people.

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  • Gabrielle
    Expert January 2020
    Gabrielle ·
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    I didn’t cry when FH initially proposed, and I haven’t yet looked for my dress, so I understand at least a little
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  • M
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    I didn't get the emotional "this is the one" when I got my dress either. Doesn't necessarily mean you don't love it or anything
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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
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    Girl, yes. I cry over proposal videos on Facebook at least twice a week so I was expecting to have the same reaction for my own. Not a single tear. I was just so happy, my automatic response wasn't to cry. The same way when I went dress shopping. I had an "okay, this is the one," moment, but it wasn't tearful and emotional like they depict in movies and TV shows.

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  • Kelly
    VIP October 2020
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    I cry over everything but not for myself! I haven't done any crying for the wedding so far.
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  • Ceelie
    Expert August 2019
    Ceelie ·
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    Right here with ya. I didn't cry when he proposed, and for the dress I just looked in the mirror and said "yup that's what I want" lol.

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  • Katie
    Super November 2019
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    I didn't get emotional when he proposed but I did cry and get super emotional when I found "the dress" but I'm an emotional person so it made sense.
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  • JEANIE
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    I'm like a lot of the people that commented here. When I watch proposal videos I literally can't stop crying, yet I literally laughed when my FH proposed? Why? I have no idea, I guess my brain's wires were all mixed up lol. Additionally, when I found the dress I didn't get emotional, I just said yup I want this one. However, all the people that were there with me cried lol. I'm glad you wrote this because I was starting to think I wasn't normal lol.
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  • Danielle
    Expert March 2019
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    I cried - sobbed - when he proposed, but then not again until I was ready to walk down the aisle. (Unless you count my meltdown in front of the taco place at about 6 weeks out because I thought things weren't getting done) I wanted to have a good party, but the dress and those kinds of details, I just wasn't emotional about.

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  • Sara
    Expert October 2020
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    I also feel like I cry over everything especially engagement and wedding, but not one tear so far. I was so happy when FH proposed didn't even think of crying... Plus I had just done my makeup!

    I also didn't cry over my dress more of a hmmm am I sure... Yea I feel good in this, I'm pretty sure FH will like my butt in this dress.. Let me just try on that other one, hmm you can't see my butt in this one, FH likes my butt... Let me try on the other one.. Yea this one feels more me, do I want to go with something totally different or stick to more my vibe.. Mom take my picture. Ok put the other one back on and take my picture... No I think I want the nice butt one back on... Ok yea I don't want to take this one off right now and wow look at that picture!
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  • Saki
    Dedicated October 2019
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    Yeah I'm the same as a lot of others here. Cry over everything! Proposal vids, thinking about us, other people's weddings! Nothing when it came to our proposal, but probably because it wasn't a surprise, we talked about marriage a lot, and we already feel like we're married since we've been living together for awhile now. He was already calling me his wife before we even got engaged and when people just assumed that we are married, neither of us corrects them, so really we're just making it legal/official.

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  • Kelly
    Super October 2019
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    I am pretty much made of stone, lol not really, but I know that I love beginnings & hate endings - & everything feels like a new wonderful beginning. I didn’t cry when FH proposes (don’t get me wrong, I was beyond happy & excited), I didn’t cry when I found my dress, but I KNEW it was the right dress.
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  • Angerra
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    I didn't cry when my fiance proposed either; I laughed a lot! I
    I didn't cry when I found my dress either. I just knew that it was my dress and that was that.
    I'm super excited about my wedding in 11 days and can't wait to marry my hunny. I'm sure I'll cry on our wedding day.
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  • Chandra
    Master May 2019
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    As silly as it is, I didn't cry when he proposed until he told me the center stone on my ring was from my late grandpa. I also managed to hold it together during dress shopping until I saw my mom tearing up. Same with wedding day. First look with my dad and daddy daughter dance made me cry because he was crying. And that man doesnt cry!
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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
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    Pirate & 60s Bride ·
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    I didn’t either. I really LIKED my dress but not love. Once it came in and I tried it with a veil I did get tears. 😊
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  • Kaitlin
    Devoted June 2020
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    I did cry during the proposal because I was so caught off guard with it being in such a public place and was just so happy. When I went dress shopping though I just kind of clapped my hands and said "This is it so wrap it up!" Lol. I hate having the attention on me so I don't try to make a big scene of things or bring out extra emotions that aren't there if that makes sense lol
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    Dedicated October 2019
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    I didn’t cry when he proposed. It wasn’t super surprising since we’ve been together so long. My sister however cried when he told her before AND when I told her after lol.

    I didn't cry or have too much emotion trying on dresses. I had mine custom made so I didn’t try it on for months. Still didn’t have much emotion. I DID tear up when I heard the price because it was $1000 less than other dresses I’d tried on 😂
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  • Charlotte
    Dedicated August 2019
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    I didn’t cry when my FH proposed just because I knew it was coming (I hate surprises). I didn’t cry when I found my wedding dress. I’m really not a girly girl so the frou-frou dresses aren’t me. I’ve grown to love my dress and I’m so excited for my wedding next week!!

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  • Cher Horowitz
    Master December 2019
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    Hi Rachel! Please don't feel abnormal. Everyone has different responses, and that's what makes us unique! You have nothing to feel guilty for Smiley heart

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  • Rachel
    Dedicated July 2019
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    I ugly cried when he proposed which was actually really shocking because I’m not usually that emotional (I joke that I was at my peak happiness before he got down on one knee because we had finally made it to a waterfall on our hike and I just was bursting into tears lol). When I picked my dress I knew that it was the one because of how confident I felt in it but I wasn’t emotional at all. I made it through the rest of wedding planning and didn’t cry again until I walked down the aisle with my dad (gets me every time lol). I don’t think crying is what indicates that you are happy or that things are “right”, so don’t let it get to you!
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