Unity Ceremony: Yea or Nay?

You certainly don't have to do a unity ceremony! However, if it's a question of finding the right ceremony, here is a fun list: http://offbeatbride.com/2011/04/unity-ceremony-options

I am doing the unity volcano! It's going to be awesome!

As of right how we're not doing one. We haven't found anything we're in love with, if we do then we might change our mind.

We're Episcopalian. The liturgy is set in stone. I wouldn't have it any other way. No unity ceremony.

We aren't doing one, I agree that the ceremony is our unity ceremony.

When I got married the first time, the unity candle blew out right away because of an air conditioning draft...should've known lol

I didn't want to do a unity. FH and I were meeting with an officiant and he suggesed it and my FH really really like the idea of the sand ceremony. So we're doing sand because its something FH wanted (he really doesn't care about wedding plans, he just wants to be married lol) and it's not a huge deal to me but it will make him happy and I'm happy he's involved in planning

We were going to do the sand ceremony since we had a beach wedding, I ordered (and received) the sand ceremony kit, then watched too many youtube video's and I didn't really feel comfortable with the whole thing (thought it was a little awkward) , I think it's nice when you have kids but personally it wasn't for me, I felt like our ceremony was enough. We are going to do the sand ceremony tomorrow just the two of us since I have all the stuff, and just keep it

We aren't doing one. The candle one doesn't bother me, it's just time consuming and doesn't hold any value to me. And the sand one confuses me. I wouldn't want to keep anything like that. I would just consider it a bother to deal with afterward and I think it would be frowned up to throw it away. I've looked into alternatives and none of them were appealing.

I haven't read the other posts yet but just wanted to chime in I say go with whatever you're comfortable with! You'll be walking out of there husband and wife no matter what extra elements you include in the ceremony. Also I think it's awesome that you'll be writing your own ceremony, I'd love to hear it!

We did a sand ceremony & it included my 2 kids in it (hey they're part of the marriage too) Each child had vows with their new dad. For our ceremony we decided on a Celtic hand fasting ceremony in honor of my Celtic roots. Each vow that we made a rope was placed over our hands & in the end we were "bound" together when the knot was tied

Do what works for you and your husband. we chose to do a salt ceremony because we liked how it represented preservation, and was a very sacred and holy covenant, without being too religious. If you can live without it, and are doing it because you feel you have to, not because you want to, then don't do it. but if you want to, then do it. it can be just a nice added touch. something symbolic of the covenant you are making to each other. sure, technically the whole ceremony is a unity ceremony, but if you want to do something else then go ahead.

We aren't doing one. Personally, I think the ceremony is enough to show unity so feel another ritual is pointless. But to each their own especially if its meaningful to them

Nay, and that is a big big big nay. I hate them with a passion. A wedding with vows or whatever is a unity you don't need and extra bit at all. They peeve me no end

We are doing a sand unity ceremony. We are including the kids. Each one of us is picking a color (six of us) and I ordered a really pretty glass box etched with the date and a C. We are marrying more than each other, we are taking on each other's kids too. I thought it would be nice to have something that symbolizes the unity of our two families into one big family.

I'm not doing one! The exchange of the rings is enough unity for me