Unity Candle

The way I've always seen it done, the mothers light the side candles, and then the bride and groom use those to light the center pillar (unity) candle together.

By the mother's lighting the candles and then the B & G lighting them it is a symbol of the 2 families uniting. I am going to have one of my daughters and one of his daughters (if she comes) light them (both our mothers and our fathers have passed away), but if his daughter does not come, then 2 of my daughters will light them.

I went to a wedding a couple weeks ago and the two mothers lit the side candles and the bride and groom lit the middle one.

My mother has passed, so my Aunt (mom's sister) and FH mom with light each and we will light the middle.

Thxs guys I was so lost cause my mom has passed away also and that kinda bother me a little but my sister is going to stand in for her.

Nequela that bride was out of control and did not want to learn, she just wanted them to light it and be seated so they did not run around (sad).

As most of the lasdies have said mothers are correct but an aunt, sister, daugther can also light it for you.

I have seen in a wedding..........That they divide the candle lighting into two parts............Lighting of the family candles and lighting of the utility or wedding candles..............Just because couple wants their 5 years daughter to light up the candle..........

What i understand is that usually utility candles mother lights up the utility candles but as it is a symbol of joining together of two families someone very close to bride or groom can light up the utility candle..............

We had planned on doing a unity candle but dont know. My FH has his mom and then His step-mom but he dont want his step mom to have anything to do with the wedding. y i dont know.