I am acutall the florist for this wedding. The bride and mother got in an arguement over proper lighting of the unity candle. The mother seems to think that lighting the "mother's" candle is performed by the long candle lighters used to light the other candles in the church prior to the ceremony. The bride believes that the candles should be lit with a simple lighter placed near the candles. Does anyone know proper lighting ettiquete for mothers?