Uninvited Kids at Wedding?!

@GymRat, when my MOH got married about 13 years ago she wrote 'No Children' on the invitation. Lol

She's a badass like that and could get away with it. I love that girl. I wish I had her balls. It was also one of the best weddings I've been to!

As an aside, I hate when people say kid meals are cheaper so don't worry about it. My venue doesn't do kid meals, so we're paying $35 a plate plus drinks for the kiddos too.

I agree with Celia. Just say you're not able to accommodate kids. Don't give all kinds of reasons, just say that.

We had two guests try to substitute kids for husbands. With the one, it would have been the invited guest's 9 year old grandchild, if her husband ended up having to work. Like WTF? Do we want to pay $XXX for an adult to attend, including open bar, and have a kid show up, who probably wouldn't have liked any of the food she was served?

BTW, it was my MILs friend and she had to handle that. She conveniently forgot we weren't inviting kids, except the bridal party. I should have taken that as an omen.

The other guest was my cousin, who wanted to bring her 17 month old. Of course, she didn't invite kids to her wedding. Two came anyway and I know she was furious. She called the kid "the little monster" in her e-mail to me, so that sealed the no-way deal. She thought it would be a great opportunity, for him to meet family. Sure, a formal, evening wedding is the perfect place for a little monster to meet adult strangers. Ugh!

Man, that would piss me off... we're also having a kid-free wedding (open bar, yacht, not conducive to little ones). We put on our invitations "___ adult seats reserved in your honor" to avoid any possible misunderstanding... and we still had one of our friends ask if she could bring her toddler.

Personally, I'd go directly to them (or have someone else do it) and let them know it's an adult-only event. It's your day, you're paying for it, and you don't want kids there.

Thanks everyone! I'll talk to my dad about it since he knows the two guests. We included generic "and guest" on the invites, but I never would have thought that anyone would invite kids as their plus one. For families with kids, we specifically addressed the invites to those invited and included "X number of seats are reserved in your honor" to clarify that only those people named on the invitations were invited.

Try it this way, S+D-- "I just heard from--- that you were thinking of bringing your child as your plus one, and I'm so sorry, but the venue won't be able to accommodate children. I'm so sorry for the confusion." Bam, done. You pretend you might have left some room for confusion and apologize, so they can gracefully say, "Oh, that's all right-- I just didn't understand. I'll make other arrangements". and you preserve the relationship.

Well, even with inviting just the adults on the invite and having adults only reception on our RSVP we still had one family come back RSVPing with their toddler...We contacted them and explained, again that it is adults only, and they were nice about it - said they would get a sitter, but some people just don't get it.

My invitations will say "Adult Only Reception to Follow".