Uninvited Kids at Wedding?!

I feel like if they are using their "Plus-One" to bring a child, there is nothing you can really do about it. When you grant someone a plus-one they can bring who they would like. I wouldn't worry about it too much. If people say anything about the children being there, I would explain that is who they chose as their plus-ones. Also, kids meals are cheaper than adult meals and they can't drink- so on the bright side, you will save some money.

Talk to them. Who brings a kid as their plus one? Let them know you are unable to accommodate children and all of your other guests have made arrangements accordingly. let them know you look forward to seeing them but the children can't be accommodated.

If you don't want kids then I would stick to that. If it was advertised as no kids then people should respect your wishes. Just my opinion

It's a bit odd! Why brings kids as a plus one to an adults wedding..

That's really strange to me that someone would bring a child as a plus one. This is a tough one. Did you state anywhere (your website, perhaps?) that this is a child-free wedding? If you don't have that out there anywhere, then they were technically well within their rights since a "plus-one" lets them bring who they want.

I would not tell other people to bring their kids. I'd call or message somehow the people planning on bringing children and let them no there were no children invited at all and you are unable to accommodate a child as their plus one. Period. Do not budge. Be polite but firm. If you don't know them well, does your mom or aunt or someone know them well? Perhaps they could help you with this.

You could always tell them that your venue doesn't accommodate kids. I know my when my best friend got married she knew there would be potential issues with her cousins kids who weren't the best behaved. The hotels wedding coordinator offered to say that the hotel couldnt accommodate them to divert the fall out. The didn't need to in the end,but it was good of the hotel to offer.

You call them and tell them that children cannot be accommodated, that if they can come you'd love it, but if they can't, you'll miss them.

That's BS.

I bet they think they are smart.

We just got an invite to a wedding and it said "adult only reception". Is that rude to put?

Sorry to hijack OP but I'm wondering if maybe doing that will give people a clue that no kids are allowed.

Who brings kids that aren't even their own? So odd

We are giving all adults a plus 1 but plan on calling any one who try to bring a plus one that is under 18 and telling them we can not accommodate children due to venue restrictions blah blah blah. Sorry but decline coming if you can't find a sitter don't assume your kid is an acceptable "date"

Yes, it's rude on the invite.

You invite the exact people you want to come. Be very specific.

I agree you should say your venue doesn't accommodate kids. Because yes while technically a plus one means they can pick, I think most people's intention is they can pick any ADULT. You wouldn't address it "John and ADULT guest". It's kind of implied but as we've seen, people don't often have etiquette or awareness we'd expect them to.

I'd call them and let them know you saw they are bringing kids and your venue doesn't work for kids to be accommodated but they are welcome to bring an adult plus one. Sure it'll be awkward but if I was an adult who didn't bring my kids but saw other kids there I would wonder. Even though I would enjoy a kid free night.

Let them know it's a kids free wedding, I went to a family wedding on FH's side where my son wasn't invited as it was supposed to be an adults only wedding, when we got there kids from the brides side were all there, only the grooms family was told it was an adult wedding...and you can bet there were some pissed parents who paid for babysitting when it was clearly not a requirement for all guests to leave children at home. Even though it's not your fault these guests are trying to get around the kid thing, I can tell you it will cause resentment or hurt feelings from those who follow and may think their kids were singled out to be not invited. Sorry you have to deal with this, it's no fun to have to tell people no!

I would reach out to them and tell them that your reception is adult only - and you are sorry for the confusion. BAM DONE. I mean this is there mistake not yours, IMO.

@gymrat in some circles you might have to put it on the invite and hit them with a bat before they understand it's adult only. Not sure if it's rude but I have seen it "adults only" on many invites. In some circles that doesn't mean a thing, they are bringing their kids anyways. Coughs *Africans*.

LMAO @Ololufe

I've never heard of kids being a plus one, especially if it's not their own child. Seems odd to me. Just tell em you are having a kid - free wedding and if they want to bring a plus one, it needs to be an adult. I definitely think the families with kids who know it's a child free wedding would get offended if they saw other kids there.

Did you grant anonymous plus ones or did you write out both the invitee's full names on the envelope? I'm just surprised people think that's ok if the kids name wasn't on the invite.

I also think that plus ones are 18 and over because children are suppose to be included on their parent's invite, they don't get their own so they can't be a plus one.

If it were me, I'd contact the 2 people and let them know it's an adult only reception. I totally get not wanting kids there. You may get 2 disinclines out of if that's ok with you. You mentioned that you hardly know those 2 family members so yeah, nbd.

#teamnokidsatwedding

ETA. Ugh spelling is hard

I heard my cousin was bringing her kids, so I called her and asked her if she and her bf were coming (after RSVPs were due and she was late responding). She told me he wasn't coming but her daughter was taking his spot and her other daughter was taking her brother's spot. I shut it down and no one came. (fine by me) She thought she was an exception because they were traveling and she wanted her daughters to meet everyone. Nope, nope, nope.