Uninvited guests saying they’ll show up??!

Do not cave and let them come. Let them know that unfortunately you have limited space and have already turned in the final headcount and cannot accommodate anyone else.

Yeah uummmm no... and that's that. I have made it clear to everyone if you don't RSVP you will not be coming in. WE are paying for this wedding and if you didn't have enough common courtesy to at least respond then no thank you catch you at the next event. No I don't consider it being mean or extra. We have deadlines and we are paying for this stuff. Now I could almost understand them saying hey we never got out invite ok it happens, but you ask is it too late for us to reserve our seats and you damn sure don't bring no plus one. I have ZERO tolerance for this. If you didn't RSVP you will not be entering and that is that. I have family that is saying oh we just gonna show up,... ok you show up to the wedding but when you get to the reception you will be very upset cause you wont be getting in...

I understand how you are feeling. We just had someone neither my FH or I like at all, be invited by my FMIL. Now we have to figure out how to tell him no. I won't have him at my wedding and let alone the rudeness of her to even invite him is driving me nuts. Ugh I feel your pain! We are going to figure out how to respectfully tell him that my FHs mother had no right to invite him and it will be a small gathering of close family anyways. I would say tell them as nicely as you can you must stick to your guest list because everything has already been ordered/confirmed and there is no room. It's your wedding, if you don't want them there, then you need to say so now. Praying for a good resolution for you!

Thank you everyone for all of your insight!! We ended up going with the plan and talking with them. Turns out it was a major miscommunication, but we are still inviting them. Luckily we’re just doing desserts and not a full sit down dinner or we wouldn’t have been able to. 🤦🏻‍♀️ We’ll see how it goes I figure I’ll be too busy to even notice them.

In my culture uninvited guests happen ALOT and most of the time.. everyone will accommodate it. However I've said that if we have space and we do (we have a few tables that're 9/10 filled) then I'm fine with letting them come and sit there but if it's all filled up after then I'm not going to pay for these people and will turn them away. I dont care if that makes me look bad, i personally think it completely lacks etiquette and courtesy to show up to an event like that uninvited or unrsvpd for.

I would tell them no, they aren't invited. I'd apologize & say you had a limited budget or something so you had to limit your guest list, and just say sorry for the confusion.

Absolutely not, they should not be rewarded for this behavior. Sternly tell them final counts are in and NO changes will be made to guest list.

Totally not okay!!!! Wow, the nerve of some people... Let them down gently for the sake of politeness though! I like other peoples' ideas of telling them the RSVP date has passed, or that you can't accommodate any more guests. It's so hard to stay positive and friendly when people try to take advantage of your hospitality!

Ick. I would not be okay with this. People who assume they are invited or assume they can bring whoever they want are the worst.
I would tell them no and unfortunately you already turned in your head count and its non negotiable

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I had at least people just show up, when those that they came with could’ve just asked.

I’d be super embarrassed to go somewhere and my name not be on the list nor seating chart. That proves that you do NOT belong.

I couldn't allow this to happen. No way. I would tell them myself that unfortunately, RSVP deadline has passed and we are at full capacity for our venue. Even if I was telling a little lie, I would still say it because it isn't right that people think it's okay to just invite themselves to your wedding. Like Mrs. Bubba said, I would feel embarrassed to go somewhere where I simply wasn't invited. Some folks are BOLD.