Uninvited guests saying they’ll show up??!

🤦🤷 id let them come and just let the stress go. ❤
It will be ok, don't worry.

View Quoted Comment That’s almost how I feel about now. I know it’s for the best to just let it go and just let them come. I just didn’t think adults actually did this kind of thing 😂

Oh how awkward. Obviously they are confused. I have no spine in these types of situations so I would let them come. But that's me!
And they're arriving with an invited person. Boy. I'd probably grin and bear it at this point.

View Quoted Comment Lord yes...adults are the worst 😆 apparently they need some brushing up on their manners.
Just take it with a grain of salt. Chalk it up to... What can you do???

View Quoted Comment That’s what I’m going to do. I really have no spine either but I get really mad about stuff. 😂

View Quoted Comment Exactly 😂 Who knows. And can’t really do much at this point.

Ummm yea I would not be ok with this lol. I’m paying for people to come that have supported me and my relationship not people who were rude to me. I plan to have a person manning the guest list and people who do not have escort cards/are not on the list will be escorted out. Dinner per person is too costly for me to be kind 😂😂 (joking....kind of 🙈)

Personally I would just tell them unfortunately final head count is sent and we can’t change it at this time. I wouldn’t want someone I found rude at my special day. Especially if they are inviting themselves. These clearly arnt your friends so if their feelings are hurt (which they shouldn’t be since they invited themselves) it won’t impact your life. Would you take these people out to a nice dinner and pay for their meals? If the answer is no, don’t do it at your wedding.

I would make it clear that they were not invited. Who do they think they are??

I would call or talk privately with them, and say that they heard unfounded rumors, and that the only people invited are those who received printed invitations. And as they are not invited, you would like to save them the embarrassment of showing up and being turned away. This is not rude, neither is it giving in. It is standing your ground. You don't like them to begin with, and they are planning something rude. So neutrally stating the facts may upset them because they are called out on it. So what? As long as you are polite about it, and do it privately, at worst they will not invite you anywhere. Gee, how awful.😉

"Sorry, we already turned in final headcount. Since we hadn't heard from you before our RSVP deadline, we assumed you couldn't make it. Let's do lunch some other time and catch up."

Heck no! Tell them something like above. And have them escorted out if they show up.

"While I'm so flattered that you would like to come to our wedding, and we would have loved to have you there, unfortunately our venue limits how many people we can invite, and we are not able to accommodate anymore guests."

Absolutely do NOT let them come. Do you have someone in your wedding party that could keep an eye out for them and tell them that they need to leave if they actually show up? My MOH is my younger sister. She's all of 95 pounds and as scrappy as they come when she needs to be... So, if someone shows up to my wedding that didn't get invited (or just isn't welcome around me in general), she will be right on them telling them to leave. I seriously doubt this will happen, but she's more than happy to do it if necessary.

I just wouldn't be okay with someone crashing my wedding like that. They weren't invited for a reason... I don't know. Just my opinion. Do whatever is gonna cause you the least amount of grief. I wouldn't let them come just to save face though.

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Or you could just send them this message. It's pretty nice and gets the point across.

Absolutely not. I have a spine and would have told them that they were not invited.

Weddings aren’t free and everyone there is projecting energy towards you. It should be positive energy from people who support you. Why should you let people like that get their way? Hell no.

View Quoted Comment So Perfect!

Definitely not. I would have shut that down right then and there. I don't understand why they think it's ok to just show up uninvited, poor form smh.

I asked our venue what's the procedure to handling uninvited guests at the reception. I will give them a list of all guests and which tables they'll be seated at. If someone comes and asks for an extra chair and don't know where they are seated, our coordinators will refer to our list and if they are not on it, they'll be pulled to the side and we'll be asked if they can be placed at a table or need to leave.

Sounds very passive-aggressive to me. People have to understand that you cannot invite everyone. I would never show up to someones wedding without being invired.

I definitely would NOT be okay with that. Go ahead and show up - you won't have a place to sit or food to eat, so I hope you brought a chair, a brown bag lunch and are okay sitting in the hallway! IF they weren't invited, there's usually a good reason why. Don't accommodate people just because they say you should!